so i told about my fight with my husband he made it home after 3 days and everything was normal but not normal… he is very rude and sarcastic in everything he says. like he would say you don’t know how to have a conversation you should google it? when i want to ask him about what’s wrong he says that i am just trying to pick a fight and all i do is complain all the time. according to him “” i am the most boring wife in the world". when he is one that cancel last min on a evening i planned to us?
guys any idea y is he doing this? and how can i get him to talk to me i am very hurt and upset over it . as i love him very much and hate when he is angry with me?
so i told about my fight with my husband he made it home after 3 days and everything was normal but not normal.... he is very rude and sarcastic in everything he says. like he would say you don't know how to have a conversation you should google it? when i want to ask him about what's wrong he says that i am just trying to pick a fight and all i do is complain all the time. according to him "" i am the most boring wife in the world". when he is one that cancel last min on a evening i planned to us?
guys any idea y is he doing this? and how can i get him to talk to me i am very hurt and upset over it . as i love him very much and hate when he is angry with me?
Hi, mfcesarah's husband! (Are you sure he's not reading this because it sounds like he is?)
Stop talking to him for now. Not sullen silence like a teenager but tell him you're ready to talk but only if he gives you respect and then shut up. You don't need to follow him around trying to appease him and asking what's wrong. He's having a tantrum so let him have one. Big baby doesn't deserve extra attention.
Why was he away from home for 3 days? He says you complain a lot, so reflect over the things you've been saying to him because it's possible that you may not realize that you're complaining. Tell him that you will be open to discussing the problem and resolving it together with him when he is feeling calmer and can speak to you respectfully and in a way that's not hurtful. Then back off and give him space. Don't chase or hound after him with questions like "what is wrong?" and "why aren't you talking to me?" Let him cool down. He seems irritated with your attention so stop giving it. Recite durood and astaghfar in abundance and make dua" when people...especially those closest to you...treat you like crap or take you for granted, it makes you realize how flawed dunyavi relations and how in the end we don't exert as much effort in developing our bond with Allah than we invest in other rishtay.
When things go wrong n u feel like there is no way out of bad situation turn to Allah. Stop befging ur husband n beg Allah. Ask for His forgiveness day n night . Connect with Allah n soon u will find ur way again inshaallah. Stay in touch with Allah
when i want to ask him about what's wrong he says that i am just trying to pick a fight and all i do is complain all the time.
guys any idea y is he doing this? and how can i get him to talk to me i am very hurt and upset over it .
I agree with what Tempe wrote above. Give your husband time and space to cool off. Stop nagging him by asking "what's wrong", "why aren't you talking to me" etc. This is just fueling the fire. If someone keeps asking me questions like that and tries to get me to talk when I'm angry about something, I get really irritated too.
You have a baby you take care of so that should keep you busy. Like Tempe said.....your husband is irritated with your attention right now to stop giving it to him. Go on with your daily routine, be nice/polite to him but do not give him any extra attention. If he says anything about it, say that you understand that he's frustrated/angry and you are giving him space to cook down. Tell him that when he is ready to discuss the situation with you in a calm/respectful manner, you are more than happy to talk.
So for now, back off and see how things are 2 weeks from now.
BTW, is your husband under extra stress because of something from work or anything related to family matters?