And why in the world ya would even consider him a marriage material if he acts like that?? Ya need to really sit down and think about what you want in life. Can you live with this psycho?. If your answer is no. Then talk to ya're elders and let this one go. Secondly, when ya said " what can i do to make it better"..well fact is ya can't!. Full stop. Instead ya should asking, how can HE make his behaviour better. And as i see it yo..Allah knows best..but he doesn't sound like decent chap..
you should have made two facebook accounts in first place... one for him, saying i'm joinnig fb just for you and other for your family & friends... ya simple add he na karti usy... bechara jal bhun k khaak hojata :D
well fb is becoming a serious issue because of this reasons, watch out...
he just being tooo muchhhh… today he got offended cuz all i said ka ap humesha itna serious hota ho ap ko koi indian movie sa inspiration lay ne chia if u be a little romantic it would not hurt and he was mad cuz he thinks i dont like this personality and i want him to change and told me if i dont like him i should marry the one i likee…i am sooo mad how the hell u r going to tell me 7 weeks b4 our marriage… this realtionship thing is hard and all my friend think i am young to be married and i agree… i am all mixed up cuz i dont know what the hell what i do to be treated like this … if that what u call being with someone i think i am better alone …
mfcesarah You dont need to worry so much, confusions and misunderstandings happen in long distance relationships. You will see things get better after marriage inshAllah! hitman is right you should have kept him away from your Facebook, also keep your in-laws away from your Facebook.
Relationship things are hard :) I totally understand you, I'm engaged since 6 months now and I was so stressed at one point that I was thinking of breaking off. My fiance told me to go my way and marry somebody else COUNTLESS times, even though he trusts me he knows i din't have any affairs before marriage and yet he said the same thing to me many many times when we have an argument. But Alhamdulillah things get better.
At this point you cannot do much to make things better. Wait till you get married, there's not much time anyway. Limit/reduce your contact with him till then. All guys have trust issues to "SOME" extent before marriage, basically because they dont know the girl. Girls are naturally more trusting. But ofcourse he's showing more possessiveness and trust issues than normal. It may be that he is mistrusting you because you're an abroad girl. After marriage show him a lot of love and care and pamper him. He will see your loyalty. Be extra careful in the beginning, totally avoid contact with any male friends. Since he is being more possessive than normal you have to be more careful than normal too Do not argue back or fight with him or try to show him that you're hurt with anything if he shows doubts about something. Give an explanation politely if there is one. Over time the trust will build as he gets to know you. Love always wins over. You will need a lot of patience and inshAllah things will become better. You might have a hard time in the beginning but as trust begins to develop things will be normal :)
And last but not least, pray a lot to Allah for your relationship, He has the hearts of humans between his two fingers and can turn them around whenever He wills. Pray to Him to turn your husband's heart to love you, to soften his heart for you, and inshAllah you will see the difference :)
so why should she go through all this sacrifice & patiently prove her love for someone who doesn’t value it? Cuz the marriage is 7 weeks away or cuz it’s her dad’s choice.
Majesty and Gaia: Whether she wants to stay with that guy or not, or why is her own decision. She wanted to know HOW to make things better, which shows she's willing to try, and I offered my sincerest advice on that :)
And of course he will value her and her love after its proven. He needs to believe something exists before he can value it.
On a side note: Its easy to judge others saying that they should not treat others on what has happened in their past or that he's a psycho if he doesn't trust her because she's lived abroad all her life. But its not so easy to trust 'anybody' when you've been cheated once! Tbh I can justify him with the position he is in...we cannot judge another person's feelings. We can only try to put ourselves in their shoes and try to be kind to them.
Also I understand that a girl who has decided to accept an arranged marriage in the first place, its not easy for her to break of an engagement that too so close to the wedding.
