What can be done?

My friend is pretty depressed and facing a situation. Need somesuggestion.

Her mother died when she was young. Father remarried. She ran away from houseand got Nikkafied to a guy she loved from childhood. Her family was againstmarrying to that guy since he was not financially stable.( They were havingsome decent proposals in hand for her). She is highly qualified but the guy isnot. Anyways life was pretty good for almost 3 years. But things changed upsidedown when guy had huge business drop, he actually lost everything they had.Wife supported in huge finance in establishing his business. Wife lost all hersavings and moreover took huge bank loan too. Things are extremely hard on themnow a days. Business has totally halt from last 1.5 year now , Guy don’t workand sit at home all the time. Wife works full time and bear all the houseexpense for kids and husband too. On the top of it she pays bank the loanreturn monthly too. They have 3 kids together. She lives in a joint family. Herin laws support her fully.

She has tried all her ways to bring back life and boost husband to work. Allefforts are done. Emotionally blackmailing or getting into huge fights, butthing eventually worked. Husband has two-faced personally. He lie a lot. Helie to run away from being questioned about forthcoming plans. He has lost allhis trust from everyone at home. He takes money wife/ mother/ brother to fillpetrol.

She don’t want to break this relationship like this. What do you suggest can bedone?

Re: What can be done?

I hope no body would suggest your freind to runaway again!

Re: What can be done?

tough times come to all sorts of people .... and she's doing the right thing in supporting her family, however she does need to focus on bringing her husband back from what seems to have been a devastating hit to his ego.

is she able to communicate with him on a personal level without it turning into a quarrel?
does she have the capacity to see beyond the immediate difficulties and picture herself in a mutually fulfilling relationship with him if he were to get back on his feet?