Trust issues are fine but she can take her time to get to know a family well before she decides to go ahead with a rishta, she doesn't have to rush into anything. If her social circle is limited, then maybe she can ask her relatives to help? Does she have no extended family that can help her with this? That other girl might be happy with her stay at home husband but everyone has their own preference and your cousin obviously wants someone who can support her instead of depending on her. The mother shouldn't force a dependent husband on her daughter just because so and so is happy with their life, everyone's circumstances are different.
The girl's background isn't very strong either. The father wasn't really educated himself and barely made a living. Education isn't an important factor on her father's side of the family. This is another reason the mother feels its better to be within your own family instead of 'humiliating yourself', if that makes sense?
You say that you have talked to other relatives...but that they support your mother's views.
Have you talked to your cousin and told him that you don't want to marry him? If so, how did he respond. I don't wanna know about lil hints that you've thrown along the way.....I'm talking about directly/bluntly telling him that you don't want to marry him. You do that? If not...then would you consider that as an option?
You say that you have talked to other relatives...but that they support your mother's views.
Have you talked to your cousin and told him that you don't want to marry him? If so, how did he respond. I don't wanna know about lil hints that you've thrown along the way.....I'm talking about directly/bluntly telling him that you don't want to marry him. You do that? If not...then would you consider that as an option?
The problem is the the situation AFTER she makes a decision. Right now the mother is quite pissed and said she will deny and the girl can go ahead an die single. But see...if she lets this one go she doesn't know of anyone else her mother will EVER consider. Her mother is VERY stubborn and is an extremist so I wont be surprised if she tortures her for a while and when she sees her age slipping away, she'll give her the same options again and she'll have to give up. What exactly can she do after denying to guarantee a somewhat better future?
The problem is the the situation AFTER she makes a decision. Right now the mother is quite pissed and said she will deny and the girl can go ahead an die single. But see...if she lets this one go she doesn't know of anyone else her mother will EVER consider. Her mother is VERY stubborn and is an extremist so I wont be surprised if she tortures her for a while and when she sees her age slipping away, she'll give her the same options again and she'll have to give up. What exactly can she do after denying to guarantee a somewhat better future?
Okay, let's say that you make up you mind that you don't want to marry him. Your mom refuses the rishta....and you stand your ground....no matter the guilt trips etc. If your mom is so concerned about you getting older....then I doubt that she'd be so stubborn as to not consider ANY guy at all (not even someone you find on your own).....she'd be hurting you/shooting herself in the foot by doing that. She's trying to corner you now...by forcing your cousin on you. But if you don't marry him.....you'll be cornering her by putting her in a situation where she WILL eventually have to agree on a rishta from outside of the family. So, she'll either give in to you.........OR.......she'll carry a grudge and not let you marry anyone at all. Could go either way. I'm hoping it would be the former and not the latter.