What can be a possible solution?

[Helpp]

Re: What can be a possible solution?

@redvelvet

1. Explain to her that it’s not as easy as him “getting a job” somehow. Minimum wage job? Takes years to graduate, etc. Bring this up with her.

LOL, this is not about me, its about my cousin. (:
She did…the mother’s insecurities are taking over her senses. She thinks the girl will ‘suffer’ a lot somehow if she goes into people the mother doesn’t know well enough.

2. Good morals (and especially in conjunction with good looks) is a rare combination, I think. LOL. Don’t downplay the good morals…it’s a very strong quality and a very important one. You can be highly educated and have a chitty character. I’m not saying that you should marry him…nor am I saying that you shouldn’t. It’s your decision. Just consider all angles/consequences.

True, but you do need some sort of education to survive in this country which can’t be ignored.

3. What do you mean that the mother thinks since the girl is studying she can take care over everything? Whose mother? And who is the “she” that supposed to take care of things? You? Or your mom?

The girl can take of everything since she’s studying and can get a well paid job.

4. So have you told your cousin that you have no desire to marry him? If so…how did he respond? If he has “good morals” as you say…then he shouldn’t impose this marriage on you. He should back out of it himself…and that way it comes to an end. Unless he’s being pressured by his mom and can’t say no…or unless he’s more interested in settling in the US instead of your happiness. (that could contradict the good/strong morals) Have you talked to other relatives who might be able to help?

The only other relatives she’s in contact with are the ones from her mother’s side, and they all agree with her mother that marrying within khandan is the best thing.