What can be a possible solution?

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Re: What can be a possible solution?

@rizla86

Surely this guy can’t be the end all be all rishta for her mother? So what if he’s the only person in the family, if the girl is decent and educated I’m sure she could find a more fitting rishta from outside the family just as easily.

Problem is not finding another decent rishta, problem is the mother’s insecurities. She’s been through a really hurtful relationship herself and doesn’t want the girl to go through even the tiniest bit of pain. According to the mother this family will treat the girl like a princess (which is somewhat true).

The girl has apprehensions about being with a person she doesn’t feel is up to her level, I think she is entitled to that. But just to appease her mother maybe she should try and get to know this guy, sometimes education isn’t everything and she might end up liking other aspects of him. He is from a good family after all, surely he must have some skills he could utilise in the US. However if despite all this the girl still feels the guy isn’t right she should just let her mother know and bow out of the rishta arrangement, promises made in the past do not entitle her mother to emotionally blackmail her.

Edit: I didn’t realise RV had already posted.

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She knows the guy well enough, the only thing lacking in him is the education which is the only thing (other than good morals) she looks for in a guy. She knows even if he ends up coming here with the girl’s help, she’ll never be able to give him the same level of respect a husband deserves. She doesn’t want her husband to be delivering pizzas or driving cabs (which I guess is a valid demand?).