What can be a possible solution?

[redvelvet]

Re: What can be a possible solution?

@Helpp

Done this already, the mother starts yelling or crying saying she has no other option.

She says its not an issue. He will ‘finish his education and get a job here somehow like everyone else does’.

Yup
The guy looks good and has good morals, but thats all there is to him. Education has no value in the mother’s eyes so she’s not ready to listen to this excuse. The mother thinks since the girl is studying she can take care of everything herself.

Done everything…no solution.

1. Explain to her that it’s not as easy as him “getting a job” somehow. Minimum wage job? Takes years to graduate, etc. Bring this up with her.

2. Good morals (and especially in conjunction with good looks) is a rare combination, I think. LOL. Don’t downplay the good morals…it’s a very strong quality and a very important one. You can be highly educated and have a chitty character. I’m not saying that you should marry him…nor am I saying that you shouldn’t. It’s your decision. Just consider all angles/consequences.

3. What do you mean that the mother thinks since the girl is studying she can take care over everything? Whose mother? And who is the “she” that supposed to take care of things? You? Or your mom?

4. So have you told your cousin that you have no desire to marry him? If so…how did he respond? If he has “good morals” as you say…then he shouldn’t impose this marriage on you. He should back out of it himself…and that way it comes to an end. Unless he’s being pressured by his mom and can’t say no…or unless he’s more interested in settling in the US instead of your happiness. (that could contradict the good/strong morals) Have you talked to other relatives who might be able to help?