Why is it that people have break ups now and then even in solid relationships??? I have been hearing about so many break ups lately…and it’s disturbing to me..because it makes no sense to me that a couple can break up and separate their ways easily…I understand that couples get into an arguement and bla bla bla happens…and they end up separating their ways…HOW??.. .I know and i have seen people cheating, betraying, even changing completely..but I still don’t understand…i just Don’t GET IT!!! it has upset me pretty bad..because to me "BREAK UP* doesn’t exist…the term doesn’t exist…To me there is no such thing as BREAK UP!!!..is it because i am too possessive ..or is it because people don’t learn to trust who they eventually fall in love with??? or is it simply because people CHANGE!!! AGAINNNNN…WHYYYYYYYY DO PEOPLE CHANGE??? why break ups take place??? what changes their mind??? what causes them to cheat??? I don’t know …I just don’t seem to get it!!
Yeah true its really this breaking up hsould be slowed down .
I have read somewhere that ‘too many ppl miss the silver lining because they are expecting gold’
Dimgh hota na ! for a marriage to be long lasting,i believe that a couple needs love,understanding,honesty , respect for another , ability to handle conflict in a constructive way .
What i think most of them don’t have positive attitude towards life , they dont want to compromise mthey are not taking life seriosuly .Yeah ! its their right that if someone is really unbearable they can leave or break up but at least they have to try once to communicate their feelings,they must understand the importance of relationships.
Another reason can be that if one (wife/husbasnd) is happily married other is not and they just want to control another but the goal must be to become united , not to overpower and control each other.
Aslam O Alaikum.
I think you're right pplz break up to soon.
And i also see that many couples dont gave theire
relation a chance. That's very sad to see.
People are no longer settleing for second best, nor are they "putting up" and "shutting up", it is no longer taboo (or as much) to stay with an abusive partner.
Females have been slightly empowered.
And for the rest, **** happens, why stay with someone if you don't think they are right for u?
and I thought it was live and let hang from the ceiling upside down
sadzzz : the idea being, they are all following the law of conservation of relationships , which states, relationships cannot be created or destroyed. While it can be transformed from one form to another, the total number of relationships in the universe remains constant.
seriously though, stop keeping track of other people, esp. if they are in relationships (who in their right mind would be? ) … as if we are not pareshan enough about our own relationships or lack thereof :-p
ok hun...it's not CONSERVATION OF EVERGY we are talking about that could not be created or destroyed....you are wayyy off...!! if that's how you take relationships..hmm I don't know..but i guess you are a mess then..!! into what and how could you transform A RELATIONSHIP?? makes no sense..
most of the times relationships are based on characteristics that are fake. The two people involved always have a mask on as they pretentiously try to impress the other person and as the intimacy develops if the ** real ** person behind the mask is not according to your expectations you loose interest and then things go downhill from there.
^^ well said. 90% western and now almost 50% desi relationships / marriages are also based on lust / desire/ materiality etc rather than personality and other important traits.
so after honeymoon period is over there is no respect left of each other and both partners try to get away from eachother.
I was referring to sadzzz’s question as to why people** break up every week, only to get back together two weeks later**-- it doesn’t really make sense! no matter how you try to justify it, I don’t think there’s any rational reason behind it, even if there’s one, it’s too case specific for us to generaize and come up with a universal law so to speak .
so basically, i think it’s a total waste of time trying to figure out messed up people .
as for your original question 'why people break up", gamma dilation et al. made some good points.
Well when it comes to being lied to, cheated on, abused, disrespected, taken for granted etc I think breaking up and moving on is the only logical option.
As for eveyone else..
Fact is people are selfish, superficial and unrealistic.
If it's not something serious the problem should be solvable assuming both people involved are willing to cooperate.
I think often those people who are too quick to break up are also those who tend to start a relationship very quickly too.
Why someone would continue to go back to someone who's done nothing but hurt them?
I'm not sure..I guess it's really hard to just stop caring about someone even if they no longer deserve it.
I dunno... I can only speak from what I have observed around me.. and what friends have often told me from their own experiences.
.I know and i have seen people cheating, betraying, even changing completely..but I still don’t understand…i just Don’t GET IT!!! 
it has upset me pretty bad..because to me "BREAK UP* doesn’t exist…the term doesn’t exist…To me there is no such thing as BREAK UP!!!..is it because i am too possessive ..or is it because people don’t learn to trust who they eventually fall in love with??? or is it simply because people CHANGE!!! AGAINNNNN…WHYYYYYYYY DO PEOPLE CHANGE??? why break ups take place??? what changes their mind??? what causes them to cheat??? I don’t know …I just don’t seem to get it!! 
its really 
this breaking up hsould be slowed down .
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