A couple about 50 years. 2 girls and 1 son, all married. Uncle jee has found a mistress and mistreats aunty jee. Kids don’t seem to be bothered much about the situation, they have their own life.
What are her options?
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Where does aunty live? Will she have access to financial support? If i was aunty i would divorce uncle on grounds of adultery, take his house, take his money, leave him on the streets, mistress won't want him after a while.
Its a shame the kids arent bothered.
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she lives in Pakistan so the she can't take the house or money.
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i just realized my dad is 49:chai: so uncle is not that old.
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Thats a real shame, bcos in Pakistan i don't think she will get any support. If she kicked up a fuss, he could kick her out?
A couple about 50 years. 2 girls and 1 son, all married. Uncle jee has found a mistress and mistreats aunty jee. Kids don't seem to be bothered much about the situation, they have their own life.
What are her options?
she's not some young hip, newly married woman, most likely she will live with it, and have the patience, like all pakistani women do, not like our new generation who are strong enough to move on and find a better life. its really sad but its the truth, something like that happend in my family, but to her and most other women there is no other answer, but to be married or have to hear abt it for the rest of their lives.
all you can do it make sure at all times she has someone to talk to, believe me it helps overs some time. and the amount of rewards she'll be getting after life are priceless...i know thats not gonna make you feel any better right now, but its soo true having patience is whats gonne get her through!!
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In Pakistan - She has no options.
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What kind of a woman falls for a 50 year old man who has 3 married children? 
Khair, in Pakistan, nothing much can be done really. These are the times when I wonder what went wrong that her own kids are not ready to support her in some way? Jeez, we all have our own lives but we don’t abandon relationships when we get married, eh? Especially our mom?
Anyhow, at this point she should maybe contact some NGO type of thing…you know those rich people who have started social service organizations. Maybe they could intervene.
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khanay mein zeher dhaal dO?
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She can use the family connects to exert enough pressure to ensure that she is given all her due rights. After providing for her properly as per Islamic guidelines, hopefully he will have a change of heart.
She can use the family connects to exert enough pressure to ensure that she is given all her due rights. After providing for her properly as per Islamic guidelines, hopefully he will have a change of heart.
I doubt that would work. And doubt him following proper islamic guidelines to provide for her. If he was so islamic, he wouldn't have had an affair.
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^agree
unfortunately her children are her only hope..in a society where disregard for a woman who has spent her entire life with the man..raising his children..caring for him..is prevalent....nothing much can be done.
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I feel for her but Im curious as to what kind of children are these who dont see their mother's suffering? They have no problem with their father cheating on their mother?
If she leaves him, she wont get a single dime, whats the point? I say, fight fire with fire. Tell her to make his life living he** but do not divorce him.
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Well! Who knows, maybe this lady made her husband's life a living hell during all of those years. He, now, found the opportunity for revenge, as the kids have already passed that tender age.
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aunty should fool uncle by saying she will readily accept the mistress to live with them , she will serve and look after them and then when uncle bring mistress she should burn him and her alive...
that will serve uncle rite for doing mastiyaan in that age
Well! Who knows, maybe this lady made her husband's life a living hell during all of those years. He, now, found the opportunity for revenge, as the kids have already passed that tender age.
Then, this uncle definitely deserves to be made miserable because he was stupid enough to stick around when could have divorced her and lived happily ever after!!! Are you saying its okay for him to cheat on his wife because she might have been mean to him? WOW!
For all you know...this woman is genuinely suffering at the age of 50. Does she have options? No. Does she have a place to go? No.
And regardless of what happens, cheating is cheating! Its wrong no matter who does it. If you dont like the person, get out. The door is wide open. Dont tell me he cares about his family, because he very obviously doesnt. Why degrade yourself even further and drag your wife and children through the mud like this?
From what I am being told, this man sounds like he has lost it. Why should this poor woman suffer just because he decides to act like he is 20 yrs old?
She needs to wipe her tears, get her life back and make him realize she isnt going to take this garbage. If she absolutely cannot divorce him without being left penniless, she needs to get even. Simple.
Women are not doormats.
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i agree with you!
Well! Who knows, maybe this lady made her husband's life a living hell during all of those years. He, now, found the opportunity for revenge, as the kids have already passed that tender age.
typical pakistani sooch..zaroor uraat mai kharabhi thi tabhi uncle jee bahir sakoon doondh rahai hain:)