What am I doing wrong?

[Paheli00]

Re: What am I doing wrong?

@fitoor

I’m just wondering, is this the nature of men? I always keeping thinking what if I was married to someone like this, my only thoughts are that it wouldn’t be fun because when I get off work, I keep hearing myself thank the Almighty that I’m not married to any of them. I see that these guys are practical and when an issue comes up approach it in the most logical way to get it resolved because of the amount of experience they have. I respect their knowledge. Great!

These are all married men so obviously they get along good with their wives. In the past, I have not been around a lot of men in my life except for my brothers so is this something I need to get used to or learn to adjust to because I just don’t know how to ignore what they say and just take it lightly sometimes.

I am a woman and I make plenty of comments that are not politically correct and can be viewed as racist/sexist. But the difference between me and these guys is that I don’t do it at work. But then again I work in a legal environment so we tend to be extra “on-guard.”

I know quite a few men (including my husband) who make negative comments about others who annoy them for whatever reason. It doesn’t automatically mean that it’s their nature or they don’t like or respect women. It’s often done as a joke or out of frustration/anger. But again, the key is NOT doing it at work.

You work culture is awful. Going to HR will hurt you unless you have solid evidence to back up your claims (usually this means stuff in writing OR having other co-workers who will verify your story). You said you only have 1.5 years of experience. You should wait at least 6 more months to make that 2 years (and maybe 1 more year if you can tolerate the behavior) and then start looking for another job.