ok let me explain the situation..if it gets confusing im sorry
So b4 our marriage, 3-4 colleagues/neighbours of my husband from pak had HUGE crushes on him, i really mean HUGE…in 2009 he went to south africa for his job… 2 girls still tried to stay in touch… 1 of them literally sent him an “i love u” msg at our wedding along with mubarakbaad kheyr my husband never responded to any of the girls’ msgs or mails… 1 of these girls is madly in love with my husband n few years back used to refer to him as “mia ji” , her FB id n email id still contain my husband’s name she has tried contacting him several times but he doesnt respond :jano: now she has added me on FB n after consulting my husband i accepted her request… now she is pretending that she is a friend of my nand… my husband is saying that i shud flatly tell her that i know abt her feelings 4 him…
u all must b thinking i must b nuts trying to befriend her but the thing which is making this situation weird for me is that my husband’s cousin likes this particular girl n they’ll be getting married soon (although she had refused to marry him earlier saying that her 1 n only love is my husband )
how m i supposed to react to this situation now? if she’s going to be a part of the family soon we’ll be seeing alot of each other :hinna:
i'll say close all contacts with her i.e. delete her from your fb. your husband hasnot and doesnot respond to her emails/sms etc that is very good.
just keep ignoring her and even when she becomes part of the family just act very normal like act as if you cant remember talking to seeing her before. ofcourse its your husband who needs to show her the 'ingoring' 'not bothered' attitude.
Pakistani women. ****ing insane for 60 plus years.
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she's a stalker...and for all you know, she may be marrying the cousin just so se can meet you all, especially him, more openly. Actually, this is exactly what she is doing.
If I were you, I'd block her from facebook and pretend you guys dont know her. As far as your cousin, God be with him, and if after he gets married, they want to meet you all, tell them you have rabies or something.
i'll say close all contacts with her i.e. delete her from your fb. your husband hasnot and doesnot respond to her emails/sms etc that is very good.
just keep ignoring her and even when she becomes part of the family just act very normal like act as if you cant remember talking to seeing her before. ofcourse its your husband who needs to show her the 'ingoring' 'not bothered' attitude.
he is not at all bothered wat im worried is after she becomes part of the family how do i behave around her knowing abt her feelings abt my husband
she's a stalker...and for all you know, she may be marrying the cousin just so se can meet you all, especially him, more openly. Actually, this is exactly what she is doing.
If I were you, I'd block her from facebook and pretend you guys dont know her. As far as your cousin, God be with him, and if after he gets married, they want to meet you all, tell them you have rabies or something.
thats my main worry coz she was never interested in my husband's cousin in the first place... so y the sudden decision i dont understand ...n he knows all about her still wants to marry her :(
i know i was not at all worried abt this girl coz i have full faith in my hubby :jano: but wen i discovered she’s marrying his cousin .. alarm bells rang!!!
thats wat i’ll do (may Allah help me out)
kheyr my husband never responded to any of the girls’ msgs or mails… 1 of these girls is madly in love with my husband n few years back used to refer to him as “mia ji” 
, her FB id n email id still contain my husband’s name 
she has tried contacting him several times but he doesnt respond :jano: now she has added me on FB n after consulting my husband i accepted her request… now she is pretending that she is a friend of my nand… my husband is saying that i shud flatly tell her that i know abt her feelings 4 him…
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i was not at all worried abt this girl coz i have full faith in my hubby :jano: but wen i discovered she’s marrying his cousin .. alarm bells rang!!!