*Thank you so much Magic 8 Ball, Seriously that was good advice. The problem that i've been doing is i've told her too much about my relationship, the good things and the bad things. And she would always start little issues and pick things out between me n my bf. Which at the time i classed her as a sister to me. So it would bother me and i would start to believe there was something wrong in my relationship. When there wasnt it was her jus sh*t stirring bcoz she is like tht with her bf even worse arguments etc! and she has the cheek to say we argue over petty things. NO! we didnt we would argue because she would brain wash me!! and i was too stupid to see it! *
MB,
One thing that took me a very long time to learn is that it's not wise to get close to too many people. I learned that the hard way. And now I'm very careful about how much of my life I want to reveal to others, including trustworthy and close friends.....including even cousins. A wedding is a huge deal and involves a lot of preparation. During your wedding planing, you might change your mind about clothes,caterers, halls, several times. Keeping this in mind, don't reveal too much about your planning to others especially to that "friend" of yours. She might deliberately try to make you doubt your choices. Plan your wedding as a surprise and that might motivate you to be more careful about what you reveal.
Instead of depending entirely on your "friend's" opinion of your boyfriend, you should form your own opinions about him because you have agreed to marry him. Interacting with him and trusting your judgment should help to determine his character. Also, it's better not to discuss relationship problems with every single person. For example, if you're having problems in your marriage, and you discuss the issues with your mom, sister, dad, brother, 5 best friends, 3 close cousins, a trustworthy coworker, and a caring neighbor, you might end up feeling more confused than ever because each of those people could have a different opinion or view point to offer. It's okay to seek advice from people you trust, however at the same time try to rely upon your own judgment and what you believe is best for you.