Weird friend that wont stop copying me

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**Hi everyone i’m a new member to this site. **

I have a issue i want to share.
Basically its about my friend that wont stop copying me and now shes done something that i’m really p*ssed about.

**I’ve been friends with her for about 3-4 years. Met through mutual friends. **

First off it was jus the little things like copying my hair, make up, clothes etc. Also people always say we look alike which i dont mind but this is the part that really got to me.

I’ve been with my bf for over a year now and we plan to get married Inshallah. She would always say negative things about it, she wud cause so many arguments between us, But shes apologised for that.

BUT considering she used to talk sh*t about my relationship, she has actually found herself a bf that has the same NAME as my bf. ALL the people in the world HOW WOULD THAT HAPPEN??? she even calls him by the same nickname i call my bf

**I wanted to get married to my bf next year, And guess what..? shes getting married to her bf next year. Even tho shes only known him 4-5 months. Its really p*ssed me off. **

I feel really angry and even tho i am happy she wants to get married, its jus the way its happend. I dont even want to get married next year now shes jus spoilt it all for me.

what do you think? Am i over reacting?

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Re: Weird friend that wont stop copying me

dublicate :confused:

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??

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isnt it u feel like a celebrity..someone wants to be like u...u r her role model...u shud feel important:)

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That's one weird friend! Wonder why you even consider calling her your "friend" now?

Why don't you spread a rumour about your break up? See if she does the same..I know it's a stupid idea but there's a story about this monkey who would always copy a barber; one day that barber acted out cutting his throat by the harmless edge of a knife and the copying monkey did that to himself but only forgot to use the wrong edge and he had his throat slit.

Try that!

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*If i spreaded that rumour she would probly rub it in my face MORE how her bf is better than mine. I know shes done this on purpose because i've been asking my bf to ask for rishta and he finally has. but we've been together for 2years. But shes only been with him for a while. She would make it out as if her's is better. i dunno *

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Fine i could stop talking to her etc but its still in my mind that she did that.

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Let her be the pretending self she's always been..

A crow cannot walk as gracefully as a swan no matter what it does to itself..So forget that insecurity and tell yourself that she doesn't exist. I know it's not simple but you can at least try!

Can i wire transfer the money outside Pakistan???
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*Thats good advice thank you. *

*But do you think i should actually go to her wedding? *

Can i wire transfer the money outside Pakistan???
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hmmm

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As the saying goes, "Imitation is the best form of flattery." It's obvious that this girl really looks up to you and admires you. But it's also seems that she's getting carried away with it.

She could have caused arguments between you and your BF because she was jealous that you had a BF and felt insecure about that fact that she didn't. OR, she could have been feeling jealous about you spending more time with your BF than with her. Either way, anyone who causes arguments between you and your loved ones SEVERAL TIMES is not a good friend. Such people cause fitna and have the potential to destroy relationships, sometimes to the point that they become beyond repair. And it doesn't matter how many times they apologize. Yes, we all make mistakes. But what's the point of apologizing when you're going to repeat the mistake again and again and haven't learned anything? I would try to be the bigger person and forgive this girl and try to maintain a distance from her.

About the BF's name. There are some names that are VERY COMMON. For example, Salman is a common name. And a common nickname would be Mani. If your BF's name is a common one, then I wouldn't dwell too much on it. IF on the other hand, his name is one that is not common, then yeah, I'd find it odd.

Do not delay your marriage just for this silly, immature, copy-cat girl. If you delay it, you're allowing her to have power over you. From NOW ONWARDS, do not tell her of your plans. Just give her vague answers. Or instead LIE to her. Tell her you'll wear a blue dress, and then buy a pink one. If she wants to know what color clothes you'll be wearing, don't tell her. But you have to be careful here. If you both have mutual friends, then it's possible that news of your latest doings can reach her through those friends. So, just don't reveal too much of yourself to others. I've found that it's better that way, in general.

If you still want to give the "friendship" another try, then talk to her nicely about her behavior and how it's making you feel.

You know this girl better than we do. If you feel that she's not going to change, then just ditch her. Don't return her phone calls, don't respond to her e-mails. Don't invite her and don't hang out with her. She'll cry a few times in the beginning and then eventually she'll get used to the situation.

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hmm

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See that's the problem. Why on Earth are you feeding this girl? Your own attitude is fueling the problem. Look, if an insecure person wants you to feel hurt, and you fulfill their wishes by acting hurt, then they win.

Why do you even care if SHE says that her boyfriend is better than yours? Is she the ultimate judge here? This girl doesn't even have the confidence to have her own unique personality, and you're worried about HER opinion? Who knows your boyfriend better? You or her? You've decided to marry the guy, so obviously you must have found him to be a compatible partner. Don't waste your time worrying about her silly little opinions. That's negative energy. Instead spend your time with people that truly respect you and work on either maintaining a distance from this brat or cut off ties completely.

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thats pathetic

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*Thank you so much Magic 8 Ball, Seriously that was good advice. The problem that i've been doing is i've told her too much about my relationship, the good things and the bad things. And she would always start little issues and pick things out between me n my bf. Which at the time i classed her as a sister to me. So it would bother me and i would start to believe there was something wrong in my relationship. When there wasnt it was her jus sh*t stirring bcoz she is like tht with her bf even worse arguments etc! and she has the cheek to say we argue over petty things. NO! we didnt we would argue because she would brain wash me!! and i was too stupid to see it! *

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MB,

One thing that took me a very long time to learn is that it's not wise to get close to too many people. I learned that the hard way. And now I'm very careful about how much of my life I want to reveal to others, including trustworthy and close friends.....including even cousins. A wedding is a huge deal and involves a lot of preparation. During your wedding planing, you might change your mind about clothes,caterers, halls, several times. Keeping this in mind, don't reveal too much about your planning to others especially to that "friend" of yours. She might deliberately try to make you doubt your choices. Plan your wedding as a surprise and that might motivate you to be more careful about what you reveal.

Instead of depending entirely on your "friend's" opinion of your boyfriend, you should form your own opinions about him because you have agreed to marry him. Interacting with him and trusting your judgment should help to determine his character. Also, it's better not to discuss relationship problems with every single person. For example, if you're having problems in your marriage, and you discuss the issues with your mom, sister, dad, brother, 5 best friends, 3 close cousins, a trustworthy coworker, and a caring neighbor, you might end up feeling more confused than ever because each of those people could have a different opinion or view point to offer. It's okay to seek advice from people you trust, however at the same time try to rely upon your own judgment and what you believe is best for you.

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There are some people who are equipped with skills to make others feel miserable- one way or the other. It can be very annoying to see someone dress and copy you in everything that you do. But the issue is much more deeper than what she wears and does, the girl is actually ruining your happiness. My counsel would be to maintain good distance from your friend. She may not be doing it intentionally, but it is wise to stay away from her. As you have stated that you have discussed your bf with her and given her the authority to brainwash you, make sure that you do not allow her to change your views. And since you are getting married, make sure that you never discuss your partner with anyone, be it your sister. One word from your mouth can come back to haunt you for years.

As for her marriage, i think you shouldnt cut off completely from her. But yes, keep your plans to yourself. This way you wont ignite any hard feelings or jealousy and be able to savour your happiness. Good luck for your marriage!

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:k: well said!

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oh she's complexed that is for SURE..and she's quite impressed by you..you just need to start cutting out on talking to her, sharing too much with her and even stop thinking about her much so that it doesnt bother you . you have a new life to look forward to. very few friends remain there for you after you are married. priorities change infact everything changes :)

reminds me of Bride Wars ;)

just don't fret too much on this and be happy. Good luck :)

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We all have one of these. Took me about 2 and a half years to relegate mine to dust