it's not about affording it.
it's about wasting money on something that people do only because of society and people around them.
i used to be in a fav. of big extravagant weddings. it used to be the biggest "dream" of my life to have a most beautiful huge wedding functions and all that but recently two things changed my mind.
the first was my brother's wedding few months ago. where we and the larki walay spent all the money and thought it would be so cool so much fun blah blah blah. but honestly it was just another event. we all dressed up went there took pictures, talked to people and got back home.
later i heard a lot of people complaining about a lot of stuff, that how the dulha walay didn't gave them enough importance, how they didn't get a good place to sit, how none invited them to come get a professional picture taken with the bride and groom blah blah blah. and that hurt me.
if i am getting married i want people to be happy for me, but that's the last thing people do, since everyone is so stressed, including your parents they all are in a bad mood and everyone is fighting with everyone else.
i don't want all that.
another thing that changed my mind about big wedding is my friend's upcoming wedding. MASHALLAH she and her fiance are both really happy and couldn't wait to get married to each other, but they can't get married till next summer because her family has to come to the wedding and siblings can't come anytime before the summer. and even thought it's her wedding she has to be the one asking everyone in her family for the time when all of them can come, and none of their's dates are matching so she is very stressed about the wedding date and all that.
if it wasn't for the society pressure she could have just gotten married to him few months ago when they got rishta pakka.
but no they can't, because everyone expecting to have a big wedding and what would the world say if ur brother can't coem to the wedding.