So I was just wondering about something, when its the wedding day (walima) and the dulhan is all done and she and her family are ready to go to the hall, who takes her there? With Arabs it is up to the dulha and his family to come over the brides house see his bride, and takes her out of her fathers house and off they go to the hall. So tell me how do you guys do it?
2nd is there some kind of speical wedding march that Pakistani bride and grooms come into or what? Do they just make an enterance without any sort of music or something like that?
3rd tell me more about what you guys do at weddings. I mean I want to know is there anything speical that the bride and groom does, culture wise and traditions.
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I've been to a few weddings where the dhol is played while the groom and his family enter the hall. The groom's male relatives make fools of themselves while they do bhangra. :) That's on the day of the wedding.
The Walima (the next day or party thrown by the groom's side since the wedding/rukhsati is done by the girl's side) .... the wedding's I've been to simply have the groom and bride announced as they enter the hall hand in hand. :)
Ists not walima its Rukhsati day ..when girls family invites all and gives party while bridegrooms family and friend are invited.. walima is next day when bridegroom gives party
Its girls family that take here to any place outside if marriage is not been held in house..
Nice thread. :k: hmm, you mean on the wedding date itself right? Well, this is what occurred during my eldest sister’s shaadi… (i guess minor variations in each family will always exist so this will not apply universally of course!).
The groom’s family and his friends are called the ‘baraat’. For my sister’s shaadi, we had made these bunches of roses, that could be pinned on the suits/shalwar kameezes of the groom and his relatives; my other sister and i were holding the plates with rose petals on them as the baraat arrived. My mother, one of my mother’s sisters, and some other relatives all pinned the roses on the groom and his relatives. oh yeah and as soon as the baraat arrived at the hall of the hotel, we had synchronized it with a song that was playing lightly in the background (it’s an old song, bahaaron phool barasao, it was the request of the groom’s elder relatives that this song be played - because i think it had occurred for his father’s marriage as well). There were about 40-50 people, i think, in the baraat. At the head of the baraat is the groom, with his parents, and elder relatives. For my sister’s shaadi, since the groom’s mother could not make it and his father had passed away, it was his elder aunts and elder male uncles who were at the front. Traditionally, it’s always the ones who are the eldest who get the most respect…so they walk infront of the youngers.
Anyways, then the baraat is greeted by the girl’s side of the family, and then i think they were ushered into the room where the niqah was going to take place. My sister this whole time was somewhere else. After all the guests had been seated and the groom and his relatives were sitting up on the stage with the Imam, then my sister and i escorted the bride from her room towards the niqah place. There they signed the contract, etc. PhiR after that people congratulated them, took pictures etc. Then it was time to eat and offer Maghrib prayer. During the dinner, a few speeches were read. Lots and lots of pictures were taken, and that was it as far as i can remember. Next day was the valima i think.
By the way, that was over four years ago so dunno, might have missed out on some details somewhere… i have the videotape somewhere, i should watch it again to remember what occurred. :o For each family, manifestly, it’s slightly different so please don’t think the above is what ‘traditionally’ occurs in every Pakistani family.
Great things Nadia :k: we do that whole roses and plate thing also
Well honestly I do not know what you call it but with us its the day that the groom and his family comes to the brides fathers house. The groom comes in with his family, he salams to everyone, and then he see’s his bride and lifts her veil. Then the father walks his daughter out the house to meet the groom near the limo or what ever car there is. They throw roses/rice and do that Arabic tongue thing (I love it)
Then at the hall, everyone waits to see the groom and bride come in to a speical arabic wedding march and of course the tongue thing again :), little girls hold up candles infront of the bride as she and the groom walk in hand in hand of course, after all they are married.
Rumii - Cool, interesting stuff. hey by the way i have been to one Arab wedding where the Aunties were doing the 'Arabic tongue thing'. That was really cool. i tried it once, it didn't work :D There was a pre-wedding party, only for female relatives/friends of the bride. What is that Arabic tongue thing called - is there a name for it?
By the way, just out of curiosity - when is the niqah, or signing of the marriage contract, performed? At the house of the bride when the groom visits? Y'know what i saw, in some 'rural' parts of the UAE, they have a sword-throwing ceremony on the day of the wedding. That looks so unbelievable - around 20, 30 men (all presumably friends/relatives of the groom) in a circle, and they throw their swords up in the air. And there are drums beating in the background. Whatever food there is, is always shared with any visitors to their village. Materially, they have so little but their generosity and hospitality knows no limits.
This is a really nice thread... interesting to learn about different cultures' wedding traditions.
The tongue thing is called “Zigh-roota” its fun and sounds good, my mother can wake the dead up with hers
Nadia the nikkah is done differently, I guess it depends on the families. I have seen some done months ahead, and I’ve seen some done a week b4 the wedding, and I have seen some done the same day. So I guess it all differes. And the sword thing, thats all part of culture and traditions. Every country, every family has its own. Believe it or not Yemenis have soo much things in common with Pakistanis. Once at a wedding of a Yemeni friend of mine, there were lots of Pakistani girls that came and said there was not difference only the white bridal dress.
I think traditions and involving cultural things into the wedding is soo cool. But I have to tell you Arabs dance till the morning.
hehehe… Yeah, those ululations are pretty sharp. It sounds so cool when you actually hear it done live, by a group of women… it really adds to the excitement (in the atmosphere) of any wedding It’s nice.
Sorry:( Maybe it’s my computer but i couldn’t access the audio file you posted:~( Thank you so much for uploading it though, i really appreciate that. i checked ‘zighroota’ on the net; am going to try and find some audio samples of it.
So true! We had an Egyptian family as our neighbours a long time ago, and you could hear their music until at least 3 am in the morning. But some Arab weddings are really cool, you learn a lot of different things in terms of music, food, customs, etc. - that i would probably NEVER have learned about otherwise.
Don't worry Naida I will do the "zigh-rooat" at your shadi. But I have to tell you mine is not as loud as my mothers, but it can still send shocke waves :D
i checked ‘zighroota’ on the net; am going to try and find some audio samples of it.
So true! We had an Egyptian family as our neighbours a long time ago, and you could hear their music until at least 3 am in the morning. But some Arab weddings are really cool, you learn a lot of different things in terms of music, food, customs, etc. - that i would probably NEVER have learned about otherwise.