Re: Wedding Trousseau
So my husband and I have a little different of a thought process. Our wedding was simple. My Nikah was in my parents’ home. The Valima consisted of a dinner he cooked in his own home. There were no gifts exchanged between families as they had been forbidden by both of us. My MIL still managed to sneak in a few things without telling him though. He gave me my rings and my meher. I gave him his wedding band. That was it.
It was so hard to curb everyone’s expectations and keep this under control because weddings are a time of fun and money is spent with the intentions of celebrating.
We have a similar desire for our kid’s wedding. If he wants to have a lavish wedding, I want him to pay for something equally lavish for someone else. If he wants us to pay for his wedding or help then it has to be on our terms and our terms are: simple.
If he finds people who consider this a deal breaker then it forces one to evaluate the union in the first place.