Re: Wedding Trousseau
Of course there is nothing wrong with giving a few items. But why does anyone need to start buying stuff years before the wedding without getting any input from the bride? 
Every bride has heirlooms/their own jewelry that they can save for the daughter/future bahu. But for new items…why not wait until the daughter is at least in high school or college aged and buy stuff taking into account the daughter’s taste? As for bahu’s…why not save the money and once the baat pakki is done, then ask the bahu for her likes/dislikes in jewelry before purchasing it?
Frankly, unless a couple is super wealthy and can manage to save for their own retirement, emergency savings, kids college expenses, AND wedding all at the same time…I think it’s selfish to make the wedding priority #1](http://www.paklinks.com/gs/usertag.php?do=list&action=hash&hash=1) . It’s sad to see parents spend 100K+ on wedding stuff but a few years later, they can’t afford to live without getting financial support from their adult children OR the kids are still left to pay thousands of dollars in education debt.