Eastern weddings are now starting to incorporate wedding speeches! yes yes and to my dread…ehem i mean pleasure I have been given the honor of writing one for my friends wedding. Notice period = two days before the actual day!! yes talk about filling in an empty spot! lol
But since we’re on the subject, would you have people talk about you in front of 300+ people? and if you were the lucky one to give a speech how would it go?- I am for one clueless where to start!
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you might wanna share an anecdote about ur friend that highlights his/her wonderful qualities basically ur there to say good things about ur friend and their spouse ...why u think they make a great couple...how u feel about their marriage and ur there to wish them some kind of prayer for their married life and pick a quality in the couple that in your mind guarantees that if they remember they share this quality they will be able to pass through any storm unscathed
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Thanks for the advice- I took it on board seriously
this is my example- anyone with other examples put them up! Id love to see what everyone has said/would say/ would change/ would do better :D:D!!!
Hello everyone
My name is Sfm123, Pouja’s close friend.
I have been lucky enough today to give a speech to celebrate the union of this beautiful couple.
I remember meeting Pouja like it was yesterday.
Being 19 and naive, us students had been given an UPLIFITNG lecture on how we would never achieve a first class degree and that very many of us will never see second year... motivating don’t you think?
It was an intimidating start to the course as you can imagine!
And there I sat overhearing murmurs and rumours of students ripping out journals and stealing books to get ahead and no one actually being a true friend. Law seemed like dog eat dog madness!
...at that point in time I was desperately looking for a safe haven. That’s when I met Pouja...
And the moment I met her all the rumours I heard were dispelled from my mind.
She has been a true friend through and through.
She never had a problem of helping anyone who asked, although she was ambitious and competitive she always had an ethic that:
--- succeeding together was more rewarding as you have someone to celebrate your triumph when you reach the finish line.
She never failed to show her compassionate sides to even those I weren’t too fond of, which is where she was the better person.
During that time we had many conversations from politics, to Indian songs, her being homesick from Madagascar, me being too lazy to write essays... the list goes on.
But one conversation that springs into mind seeing her today as a beautiful bride is what she said about love...
She said to me one day, everything is love.
I asked what do you mean pouja?
She went on to explain that love is an integral part of who we are, what we are and how our futures are shaped.
Me being the cynic I asked how could that be?
She went on to explain that by being positive and showing kindness, is a form of love. That this positivity is transferred onto everyone you meet,
one moment you might have a terrible day but after meeting a good friend beaming with love, you take a little bit of that love with you and improve your outlook instantly.
I asked what about if those around you don;t want you to love?
She answered, YOU FIGHT FOR IT! Any pure and good cause is worth fighting for, love is worth fighting for...
So as I look to you today pouja, not only do I see a beautiful young woman confident and sincere, but a protector of your new family, I see you protecting your loved once with fierce passion, kindness and love, reaching success in all you do.
Ashish may you protect her also, with your strength in love, and may you both go forward with compassionate hearts in every step you take together, so that when you both reach the finish line you can look to a life in triumph, that you faced it together.
A round of applause for the bride and groom!
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Awww sfm123 I like it. awesome job! 
Usually when I go to weddings where people give speeches, people go on and on and on… but I think yours will be about 2 minutes-ish. :k:
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I know of a friend who recited a speech by way of a poem which was different.
Maybe you could try that, its something quirky I guess.
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I did it! ooh my goodness!
The whole night I was dreading the moment I had to go up to do the speech, people would overlook at my piece of paper and ask 'oooh what's that?' and id have to spread the word I was doing the speech in utter nervousness, which i hated since people started having expectations!
Normally im ok at public speaking, because I don't care about what anyone thinks- but I was freaking out because I cared about what my friend thought, whether she'd be offended- whether she'd hate looking back at her wedding video cus i ruined it, whether this wud be the moment id ruin her special day !!!
To add to the tension everything was running late! the speeches ran 1.5 hours late! ahh i wanted to get it over and done with!
...then the bride called me over ...
"sfm the camera guys are saying we only have time to fit in one speech, my sisters doing one and you are too, how long is your speech?"
There I stood stunned- AH RELIEF! I don't have to do it!! I 'graciously' placed importance of the fact her sister is her sister and she should be the one to do the speech. and went off to my seat.
The speeches began, first from the grooms side, he went on in a pretty bog standard way !I knew the groom from when he was a kid, he loved the sweets i kept in my car bla bla"... once he finished he called out " and now its time for sfm!" stunned i sat there for a moment- does he mean me????
i fumbled from my seat and thought "oh god! cut my speech, cut my speech, make it short- how the heck do i make it shorter when i dont even remember what I wrote!"
I grabbed the microphone, with the camera glaring at me lights and guests staring, silence in the marquee... "ehem, hi everyone, im pretty nervous but Im sure you'll make me feel warm and welcome...." pause...more silence, my voice trembles and i start the speech "you knwo when you ffind a good friend, you know its great, you know ...you know" - ah the damn repetition! then I meet eyes with pouja, and i see her smiling towards me and i brave on, she'll be happy she'll love the speech... I remember what to say its ok, im in full swing- pouja starts tearing up and i hear applause! and the speech isnt even over- i did a good job?
By the end of it, I became the celeb of the wedding, everyone calling me saying i did gr8! hugging me, the photographer taking photos of me..to think i worried so much? I had a good reason too! what a night...im glad my part is over!!! lol
Id love to hear your stories and speeches!!!