Re: WEDDING QUESTIONS
- The engagement ring that the bride is given from the groom's side, is bride's choice considered or groom's family them self get it?
It depends on the family. I guess its traditional for the groom's family to get it (and other things like the joras) without considering your preferences...my fiance got it with my sister's help so that I would love it, but it would still be a surprise.
- If you were to stay in the same city, how many dresses should you make? Wedding wear? Party Wear? Saris? Night suits/lingeries? Casual shalwar kameez? Pants/shirts/blouses/tunics etc. for honeymoon?
depends on the area you'll be living in. If you're in the West and there's not a big Muslim community, you wont need as many fancy dresses. Besides, I think regardless its stupid to get too many outfits made at once since fashion changes quickly and often. For the honeymoon, find out how many days and nights you'll be the there, the type of environment (beach or mountains for example) and pack accordingly. If you'll be on a beach, then bringing heels might not be a good idea....if there arent a lot of expensive restaurants nearby, then bringing a fancy outfit might make you look overdone. You should just consider things like that...
- What is the norm for getting gifts for the groom's family? How many dresses for mother/father/siblings?
There isnt any norm....people make choices based on tradition and expenses. For some, its a MUST to get a gift for all of the groom's chaachis and phuppos and khalahs and mamis...obviously if you're doing that, you'll have to get outfits. Some just get gifts for the immediate family of the groom, which means you can get something a little bit nicer, like gold earrings or something.
- What should the parents get for the groom?
Whatever they can afford that's nice. I would rather get the groom 2 higher end shirts and pants than 10 pants and shirts that arent top quality. We are getting a watch, a ring, cufflinks, cologne, a suit, and a shaving kit for sure....still thinking about pajamas, shirts and pants because the things we bought are already costly.
- How can you suggest to the groom, just hints that you would prefer staying the first night at a hotel in privacy?
haha I don't get why people can't talk to the groom openly? Why hint, just say "is there any way we could stay the first night in a nice hotel? Then we can do all the rasams by going to your parents house in the morning" Besides, if you're getting married in Pakistan and in a hotel, they give you a free hotel room for that night anyways.
- If there is no trend of dawats in your family, do people make a big fuss about it later?
People make a fuss about everything, from how much you spend on the dress, to what gifts you gave the family to how many joras your in laws gave you. It REALLY doesnt matter if anyone makes a fuss....just say, "in our family, it isnt a tradition to have dawats after the wedding." people who say stupid things like this are not truly happy for you.