Hey guys, just a question 
is it ok for a girl to propose a guy in our society/culture?
what would you guys think about the girl 
nothing wrong with it... but ur average joe would do it himself cause we like control
Re: Wedding Proposal
Obviously not the norm in our culture, but I don’t see anything wrong with it.
nopes.. nothing wrong with it at all... Islamicly anyone can do it.. i mean either guy or gal...
Technically - she proposes the guy - a girl invites a guy into her nikah - she signs the nikah contract first.
Guys rule?? :biggthumb
Re: Wedding Proposal
Yar its Bad atleast for me.. If some gal propse me.. and.. i dont want to marry her… I am in Trouble…
How will I refuse her 
But.. Its nothing wrong if a gal propose a Guy.
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but ur average joe would do it himself
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its not for me man, its my friend, they've going out for 2 yrs and she thinks its time to move on, but she's not sure if the guy would be ok with it, he pakistani, and he's been livin here for 5 yrs, she's just not sure how would he react :)
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Yar its Bad atleast for me.. If some gal propse me.. and.. i dont want to marry her... I am in Trouble...
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what if you been goin out with her for 2 yrs, and you showed signs that u wanna end up with her, then what ???
Everyone else thankyou so much for ur replies, it helps :)
rimsh, quite alright for a woman to propose to a man but it's not a usual occurrence in our culture...the tide may begin to turn a bit though.
:)
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nopes.. nothing wrong with it at all... Islamicly anyone can do it.. i mean either guy or gal...
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Hmm no.
Technically, a girl should have a gaurdian who can make a proposal (father, or in the case that father is a non-muslim, a gaurdian) on behalf of the girl, because a marriage is considered null if it is done without the permission of this gaurdian.
And if a girl does have a gaurdian who agrees to her marriage, i highly doubt she'll be doing the proposing herself.
As for the original question, i think instead of proposing she should have the 'where do we stand' talk ;-)
Sorry i hope this isn't considered as 'off-topic', but wasn't a proposal for marriage put forward (through an intermediary) by Khadijah to Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him)? Even for today's times, in certain 'conservative' circles, a female proposing to a male (even through an intermediary as she did) would be perceived of as a bit 'awkward'. BUT - from an Islamic point of view (not Pakistani culture), there's nothing wrong with it... at least in my opinion.
Dunno i could be completely wrong, that's my two cents.
I totally agree with Nadia's 2 cents. :)
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I totally agree with Nadia's 2 cents. :)
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Tumhaare iraade kuch khatarnaak lag rahe hain. :D
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Sorry i hope this isn't considered as 'off-topic', but wasn't a proposal for marriage put forward (through an intermediary) by Khadijah to Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him)? Even for today's times, in certain 'conservative' circles, a female proposing to a male (even through an intermediary as she did) would be perceived of as a bit 'awkward'. BUT - from an Islamic point of view (not Pakistani culture), there's nothing wrong with it... at least in my opinion.
Dunno i could be completely wrong, that's my two cents.
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Although I don't agree with ammar's point of view either (so what's new) just a reminder that the Prophet's first marriage was pre-prophethood and all we can deduce is that it wasn't a cultural anomaly in those days for women to make the first move and ask a 'representative' of theirs to further the query.
Nadia_H is totally right, theres nothing wrong with it. people often confuse religion with culture. culturally it's considered awkward in our society;why? no one knows, but religiously we have the very example of Hazrat Khadija and our prophet S.A.W
haha Umer, I am so not the type of girl to make a first move, but when you're left with no other choice, then you really do have to take the matter into your own hands. :)
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**I totally agree with Nadia's 2 cents.
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Thanks, Cat-Woman :)
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*...when you're left with no other choice, then you really do have to take the matter into your own hands. :)
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i agree.
whats the big deal?....get em all the time :p