I am here with my first wedding trouble and In law story.
My Mil just came back from karachi and bought both dresses and jewelry. I am getting the feeling that she paid more attention to the valima outfit, jewelry and on shadi she kind of picked out whatever. Anyhow, ignoring that. She bought me a polki style set for shadi. Its very small with no jhomarr and small tikka. It seems like a party style set. and i guess she realized this too thats why bought me another white pearl style smaller set to wear both together. They both individually are very pretty but not the bridal style.
Now should i Just suck it up and wear it. or should I polietly get something else and ask her if thats okay.
P.S. She realize it too thats why was telling me to see if i can find a bigger tikka to go along with the set.
I might sound like a Brat or bridezilla. But honestly I love the set maybe if it was just a little bigger.
I would tell her but i just don't want her to get upset Since she bought it for that.
I just don't want to start on the wrong foot.
I kinda hinted my fiancee about it and he didn't say anything.
i understand u don't want to upset her but like u said ur MIL realises herself that the set she purchased isn't 'bridal' enough so she shouldn't really have a problem with u buying something else especially since u will still be wearing those other sets for other occassions.
Btw i don't think u sound like a brat or bridezilla, i'd be exactly the same. ur wedding day is the one occassion where u can go all out and wear heavy jewellery so do what makes u happy :)
You are definetly not a bridezilla if you gave her the right to buy the outfits for both baraat and walima!
I hope everything goes good for you,inshaAllah.
just buy a new bridal set n tell your MIL tht your family wants you 2 wear the set from your parents side n you can wear the jewlary from your in laws side on valima
Hun, polki sets are very expensive. I think a small polki set is way better than a big set that everyone else is wearing. I recently saw a bride wearing a polki set that was on the smaller side and it looked beautiful. Her jora was heavy and she had a small matha patti and she looked ravishing. Think of a small teeka with a string of polki stones on either side. Perhaps you can add beaeds to the side of your tikka and make it a matha patti. Nothing makes a girl look more like a bride than a matha patti, jhoomer, or nath. This is a way to work around what you have and still get a 'bridal' look.
I would tell her but i just don't want her to get upset Since she bought it for that.
I just don't want to start on the wrong foot.
I kinda hinted my fiancee about it and he didn't say anything.
u can always take the set she gave to u to a jeweller n get an extra line of design added, that way it will b bigger n she will not b offended either :)
i have seen a few ppl do that