wedding preps and the life after

You are right. Loads of the over expenses are based entirely on the "what will people say"-argument. I remember once talking with my SIL about gold. She has got loads from her and mine parents - which btw is just rotting in bank boxes :p. And her arguement for having to wear so much gold was .. "humari taraf to sub yehi dekhte hain ke kitna sona pehna hai isne" .. Lets not forget she is a well educated woman ... I think it must be the desi mentality so