wedding planning advice needed!

[devotee]

Hi all,

(might be a slightly lengthy post)

I have been observing this blog as a youngun and always knew I’d be posting on here anytime it was my turn to get married! hehe.

So inshallah I will be getting married in summer 2017 (not yet confirmed - dates undecided)

Fiance and I have decided to keep all our occasions super intimate. We had to cancel the engagement because my young sibling passed away around that time. As you can imagine the state of our family situation, especially parents, so out of their respect and emotions we have decided not to have a typical lavish extravaganza like many Pakistani weddings. We will have an engagement style nikkah at home inshallah.

There will also be a girls only mehndi event (to honour my late sibling), also at home.

We have looked into having a combined rukhsati-walima event with our closest family and friends (numbers are undecided) but I expect possibly around 300 people, or even less. Provided the dates are confirmed as soon as possible, we would be having it at a mosque which we got quoted for a really good hourly price rate. It has a grand main hall that is already really beautifully decorated with tall ceiling, gold embellishments and chandeliers (so we don’t really need to worry about venue decor). Event will be segregated with a partition.

Bearing in mind, we would like the event to be classy as well as modest, just a few areas of concern:

• Since we are also trying to be budget friendly, where do we decide to put our costs and where do we opt for DIY? Any DIY-ers find their efforts worthwhile? or would it amount to the same prices as the vendors? I’m talking about table centrepieces and mini stage areas mainly, and possibly a mass dessert/sweets table which seems to be the latest trend.

• Also, as beautiful as this mosque is, it has a green carpet with bright green duct tape across to show the direction of the quibla loll. I don’t have a problem with green carpet but it’s just that tape, which can’t be removed. How would you advise on getting that covered, or am I being extra? would white sheets to cover be appropriate or do decor companies do any flooring?

• my brother has volunteered to bake our wedding cake. But, I refused and said he should just enjoy the event with us rather than be bogged down with baking. Cakes suppliers charge extortionate prices for cake it’s unreal lmao, but then I think it’s just ONE VERY SPECIAL DAY, why not. Advice?

• also, does anyone have any cute ideas to make it extra special and unique. I have thought of some pinteresty stuff but your ideas will also be valuable.

That’s all I can think of right now, you guys are sooo good at advice and I’m sure we could come to decisions with your help.

Thank you for reading!! <3

[bookenthusiast]

Re: wedding planning advice needed!

Hi, I could imagine how beautiful and unique your plans are. I presume that you have a very supportive and really creative family. If you have already the date and place, everything would be easy. About cakes and flowers , there are a lot that gives an affordable price or you could check on packages that caters food also. In addition to it, you must also check on the numbers of guests you would like to invite.

[Eustacia_Ray]

Re: wedding planning advice needed!

I am not married yet. But when I read your thread, it seems very inspiring. Anyway, I just wish you "good luck, endless love and prosperity". Salam

[Mrs_Saieen]

Re: wedding planning advice needed!

@devotee

Hi all,

(might be a slightly lengthy post)

I have been observing this blog as a youngun and always knew I'd be posting on here anytime it was my turn to get married! hehe.

So inshallah I will be getting married in summer 2017 (not yet confirmed - dates undecided)

Fiance and I have decided to keep all our occasions super intimate. We had to cancel the engagement because my young sibling passed away around that time. As you can imagine the state of our family situation, especially parents, so out of their respect and emotions we have decided not to have a typical lavish extravaganza like many Pakistani weddings. We will have an engagement style nikkah at home inshallah.

There will also be a girls only mehndi event (to honour my late sibling), also at home.

We have looked into having a combined rukhsati-walima event with our closest family and friends (numbers are undecided) but I expect possibly around 300 people, or even less. Provided the dates are confirmed as soon as possible, we would be having it at a mosque which we got quoted for a really good hourly price rate. It has a grand main hall that is already really beautifully decorated with tall ceiling, gold embellishments and chandeliers (so we don't really need to worry about venue decor). Event will be segregated with a partition.

Bearing in mind, we would like the event to be classy as well as modest, just a few areas of concern:

• Since we are also trying to be budget friendly, where do we decide to put our costs and where do we opt for DIY? Any DIY-ers find their efforts worthwhile? or would it amount to the same prices as the vendors? I'm talking about table centrepieces and mini stage areas mainly, and possibly a mass dessert/sweets table which seems to be the latest trend.

• Also, as beautiful as this mosque is, it has a green carpet with bright green duct tape across to show the direction of the quibla loll. I don't have a problem with green carpet but it's just that tape, which can't be removed. How would you advise on getting that covered, or am I being extra? would white sheets to cover be appropriate or do decor companies do any flooring?

• my brother has volunteered to bake our wedding cake. But, I refused and said he should just enjoy the event with us rather than be bogged down with baking. Cakes suppliers charge extortionate prices for cake it's unreal lmao, but then I think it's just ONE VERY SPECIAL DAY, why not. Advice?

• also, does anyone have any cute ideas to make it extra special and unique. I have thought of some pinteresty stuff but your ideas will also be valuable.

That's all I can think of right now, you guys are sooo good at advice and I'm sure we could come to decisions with your help.

Thank you for reading!! <3

Im so sorry for your loss :(

Cake--That's really sweet your brother wants to bake the cake. I would take him up on that offer, maybe opt for a very simple cake so its less stressful for him? To be honest, the fancy cakes look amazing but not a lot of people eat the fondant or frosting, so maybe simpler would be better?

Tape--I honestly wouldn't fuss over the tape. Wouldn't it be covered by the tables/chairs anyhow? Just wondering.

DIY--I've seen ppl do DIY for the table centerpieces and wedding favors. That's always nice.

Unique--Some things 've seen at other weddings that I thought were nice--picture slideshows (just not too long!), speeches from close friends and family. Ppl may find them boring, but I personally found them very sweet and cute. At one wedding, the bride's family had us sit and be part of a short video.. friends and family giving marriage advice (could be funny or serious etc). It wasn't used (I think?) but I thought that was a lovely idea...II've seen photo booths with a box of props, Guest books to sign for the couple..

I mean I guess these are all so common now that its not really "unique" anymore, you'd have to do some extremely extra/out there to be "unique" but I still think they're fun and interesting....I guess I"m not so jaded that I don't roll my eyes at some of these things?

Also, maybe just a really simple wedding is unique enough?

[devotee]

Re: wedding planning advice needed!

Thank you so much guys, your kindness is uplifting :)