ummm...Hollywood... what if it is her time of the month? Then you're going to have to "get to know her better".
I have similar concerns like you as I am getting married next July IA, but I've known my fiance for 2 years. I am hoping he doesn't have the same friends as you.
I'm not in any rush to have sex with her yaar...its not like it's going to be my first time or whatever. I have no problems waiting, whether its 'that time' of the month or not -- I would have no issues with waiting as long as it takes...I just wanted to ensure I wasnt screwing up due to the fact that everyone has their own interpretation of what is required on the religious side...my friends obviously have their own interpretation which they are pretty consistent with...ie all 4 of my cloest friends gave the same advice!
In a way, its my fault...If I knew more about my own religion I probably wouldnt even be asking the question to begin with.
I'm not in any rush to have sex with her yaar...its not like it's going to be my first time or whatever. I have no problems waiting, whether its 'that time' of the month or not -- I would have no issues with waiting as long as it takes...I just wanted to ensure I wasnt screwing up due to the fact that everyone has their own interpretation of what is required on the religious side...my friends obviously have their own interpretation which they are pretty consistent with...ie all 4 of my cloest friends gave the same advice!
In a way, its my fault...If I knew more about my own religion I probably wouldnt even be asking the question to begin with.
Well said.
You sound like a level-headed guy that knows where he's coming from and where he's headed. In fact, you sound like a great catch. She's a lucky girl.
Hope your wedding and all the festivities around it are memorable for all the right reasons iA.
If you follow any advice from anyone, let it be to love and try to understand your wife and above all respect her.
Well said.
You sound like a level-headed guy that knows where he's coming from and where he's headed. In fact, you sound like a great catch. She's a lucky girl.
Hope your wedding and all the festivities around it are memorable for all the right reasons iA.
If you follow any advice from anyone, let it be to love and try to understand your wife and above all respect her.
Above all spouses are supposed to show mercy for one another. So take it easy on the girl---be sensitive to her mood and her pace. Starting out your sex life as some sort of compulsion is a great way to ruin it for you both. If she's not ready, as others have said, there's no requirement to do the deed on your first night.
umm jus hangin seems to be the logical and sensible thing to do... I am in a similar dilemma .. i dont know my fiancee that well.. liek we have talked a couple of times over dinners with family and that's it! .. so now what do i do? .. I mean being a girl how can i tell him to jus hang n chit chat without offending him?? what if he is ready and all ?? who knows his 'huge pakistani man EGo' creates problems! ... than what?
Heyy guys
so my big day is coming up
and im getting rlly stressed out about everything
but along with all the other stress
im kind of getting scared to get married as well
the part thats buggign me is that does it hurt to haev sex?
For what it's worth...even guys are nervous! Like me for example! So u arent alone...I'm hoping that just by being myself, making her laugh hopefully it would ease the initial tension and we could hang out and get to talk and take it from there...easier said than done but thats what I'm thinking!
LOL....I'm not a girl so maybe I shouldnt be answering this but all I can tell you is that if the dude knows what he's doing, it shouldnt hurt much if at all.
Tell him to be gentle. Or if your not ready, Im sure he will understand. DO NOT stress yourself over that! Make sure you have a lovely day that you enjoy. When it feels right it will happen. But again thats not the important thing, You have the rest of your lives together to do that.
ive known my fiance for 3 yrs
and we have talked about this
but liek im not going to be like
oh plz go easy bcuz im scared
sum plp have said that it hurts sooooo mch
and its hard to walk the next day
so nwo i just feel sick thinking about doing it
and also apparently it takes a while to even get started
Ufff.... atleast leave something to imagination and do whatever you like and whatever feels appropriate at the time. I think talking about it drains everything out of the proceedings that you should feel at that time. We all have questions but seriously, there are other things to worry about in a wedding rather than just this.
Anyone who is still thinking about only the 1st night rather than the whole spending your life together should discuss the matter with a helpful older person or a marriage counselor known for pre-marriage counselling. I know that this is a great big part of a relationship, so please don't trivialize it by asking everyone in the world and telling people about it afterwards.
Please do a search, you will find many answers to your question.
