Wedding night...the first night.

[Hollywood]

hareem01,

So there is no Hadith or anything with any guidelines for this ?

@Sahar02

You do not have to have sex at any prescribed time. Please do not listen to the narrow-minded weirdos who think you have to have it on the first night. I think the first night will be beautiful for the two of you as you chat and get comfortable with each other. Be affectionate without being aggressive. If it feels right to become more intimate, go for it. Also see how she feels.

Be aware tho that she may have been fed the same lies about sex on the first night and how men always want sex. So if you don’t show interest in physical intimacy, she may feel something is wrong. Make sure to talk about how beautiful she looks and to be tender and affectionate, without doing anything that either of you are uncomfortable with.

Sahar02,

Thats what I was thinking…I would be more comfortable just hanging out and getting to know her a bit initially and see how it goes from there…BUT all my friends keep telling me otherwise, some of these guys are actually very religious so I take what they say seriously which is what keeps confusing me.

According to them, it has to be the first or second night otherwise the marraige isent complete…which is what screwed my head even more…as if I dont have enough issues to deal with!