Wedding night...the first night.

hareem01 · December 16, 2009, 4:38pm

Helloooo guppies,

Im getting married in a few weeks in Pakistan. My fiance is a girl my parents chose, I met her briefly for our engagement in November and since then have spoken to her on the phone a few times casually but thats it. The wedding was not supposed to happen till next year but a family member’s poor health pushed it to december.

Anyways, I havent gotten a chance to know her as well as I would have liked…and now Im wondering what do on our first night…!

My friends insist I have to have sex with her the very first night as this is a ‘must’ according to those who know more about our religion than me…however I find this really weird…I mean I dont know her well enough, not even as a friend and Im sure she would feel the same way…but at the same time, everyone keeps saying it doesent matter…you have to do it the first night etc etc…

Ive never had issues talking about stuff like this with any of my girlfriends in the past but with my fiance - Im not at the same position just yet…we barely talk much - shes in Islamabad and Im in Windsor. So its a long distance thing…

I guess Im wondering whether - Im SUPPOSED to have sex with her the first night - or second night etc — or is is it cool to wait a bit and get more intimate with time…and secondly how did you all handle your own first night ‘issues’ if any?

Thanzx!

Religion doesn’t say that.