my cousin is very close to me, she got nikkah to a man in pakistan and now she is here in UK. they love each other a lot (it is love marriage) and inshaallah their wedding will be in 2010. my cousin ask me for help because i am good in english so i help for her.
she said her husband want to have sex (with condom on) on barat night but worry that her legs will be pain after sex on that night. and she will bleed a lot on bed when sex. then on the next day they have walima.
they are very confuse whether should sex on barat night or wait after walima. because he don;t want to make her painful and walk hard. he really care a lot for my cousin.
i am not married so i don;t know anything and ask for your help. my cousin reveal this to me such strange way and i can;t ask my family or friends so i hope this GUPS will help me.
what my cousin should be expect if they want to sex on wedding night and what thing she should avoid and do?
sorry for embrassed questions.
For your information Sister! Walima is actually celebrated after the couple have consumated their Marraige, and not before......:)
that is if you wish to follow the tradition!