Re: advice from MARRIED WOMEN: should do or wait after walima?
They shouldn't be discussing that right now AND definitely NOT be discussing them with unmarried cousins. It is their life they do whatever they want when the time comes. You can't make or change decisions about these matters because of other people's suggesestions and opinions. Shaadi preparation and wedding nights aren't the only things to worry about when starting a life together. Pray to Allah that the love and respect remains steadfast in any circumstances the couple goes through.