Hi Everyone. Here’s my situation: I’m getting married in about 5 weeks, and I have been so excited since we have been planning my wedding. My mother came to me yesterday and started to tell me that after I get married, the first night is really important. She basically explained to me what will happen that night, and that it might hurt. She told me that if it does hurt, not to bother crying and be a woman. She also said that I should not anger my fiance, and that it’s my job to “please” him. I was under the impression the boy does all the work, and I was just supposed to lay there? She kept going on and on about how it’s important to “please” him, but I don’t know how? I’m too embarrassed to ask her, and having the conversation with her was really uncomfortable. My fiance is super nice, and has really been a real gentleman I do want to please him, and want him to be happy. Any girls know what I should do? Thanks!
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Dont just lay there, be little responsive. I am sure that is what you mom meant.
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Perhaps what your mom meant was cooperate with him, be enthusiastic and not insensitive. Good luck and god speed 
How old are you?
Maybe you could please him by making him comfortable.
'Mein aaj yahan zameen per lait jaati hoon, ap aram se bed per so jayen, please.. ap thakkay hongay.' - for example.
How old are you?
22yrs
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poor guy, all set for a disaster
how about pleasing him with
"jub tak hai jaan, jan-e-jahaan main nachoon gi"
oon ka gola ly jana, sweater bun’na us ky liy.
jesus
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Okay guys ... even though the topic warrants these kinda responses the grl is pretty serious and very lost and asks for serious replies only so just be a lil respectful towards her problems ... i'm sure u wldn't want people making fun of your issues either.
Ok
My humble view is this (I am not married so I may be completely wrong) that he’ll probably do all the work and stuff but as TLK don’t just lie there ( 
) but respond to what he does otherwise he’ll be thinking ‘oh hell I am doing it all wrong’ and his nerves would take a hit and would destroy the special experience (God I sound like a woman 
).
Guys WILL get nervous too and not responding and just doing an impersonation of a rock WON’T help the situation or break any ice (I’ll probably need help staying on my feet lmao)
Hope it helps!
How do you know for sure that you'll even have sex on the wedding night? Desi weddings run really late at night and are very exhausting. It doesn't necessarily have to take place on that night. It could take place later as well. I don't agree with your mom's approach or advice. First of all, she put all the responsibility of pleasuring on one person and secondly she didn't take into account that "wedding night" experiences vary. Communication (most importantly with your husband to be) is key here. When the time comes (be it on the wedding night, or the day after, or the honeymoon), talk to him about it. Communicate your fears, what feels right, what doesn't etc. because he can't read your mind and I doubt that he'd want you to feel uncomfortable. It can't be much fun for him if you're not into it. I think that sex is more emotional for women than it is for men. Therefore, if you don't communicate with your husband, it has the potential to have uncomfortable emotional consequences as well. It involves two people, so approach it in a cooperative/mutual way as opposed to the "martyr"-like notion that your mom has given you.
I don't have any experience in this area, but maybe the married folks will provide mature input. It's not unreasonable to imagine that the poster was earnest in creating this thread. Now, in the event that you're trolling, well...that's just sad, lol.
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[note] Please stick to the topic . Thanks . [/note]
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Relax and enjoy the company of your to be husband. Just be natural. Ask your older sister or close married female friends.
More you worry about it more it will be a disaster.
Your mother is partly right. First night let the man do the job and you help him.
Tell him if it hurts, no need to hide, he should and will understand. Good respectful communication is the key!
Good luck and congratulations.
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Hun you only get one "first night." Relax and enjoy it. Remember, he is going to be just as shy and uncomfortable as you. Talk through it with him.
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He is your husband...he will be kind and considerate...you do the same.
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This is the usual sequence:
Dude: 
her: 
dude: 
her: :layd:
dude: :hugz:
her: :hayaa:
dude: :yahoo:
her: :bailan:
Take a look at these threads, I’m sure you will find lots of great advice.
http://www.paklinks.com/gs/wedding/380853-wedding-night-first-night.html
http://www.paklinks.com/gs/wedding/246133-how-relax-your-wedding-night.html
lol
So why the last part of ‘her’ is bailan? That is much later …meaning many many decades later! 
Her proper response should be :bb:!
if it's SOOO serious, why don't you ask your girlfriends or google it?
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I wonder how ppl here cannot differentiate between a genuine post and a post posted by a male pretended to be a female. :sighs:
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Jeeez what a great story! I give it 4/10. Originality is lacking but written well. If this is so true and ur so concerned why dont you go to your doc, ur girlfriends like Aishh said or um ur married cousins. No need to talk bout that in such graphic detail on a public forum.