Re: Wedding list
Hubnubs, congratulations on your forthcoming wedding, my prayers are with you for a long, blessed and happy marriage inshallah. Hope all goes well.
Your mother may not be with you now, but please remember that all the dua's that she made for you still count. Inshallah they will be accepted.
About the jewellery for the wedding, I would agree with you and say get something artificial that will go well with your wedding clothes. Lots of people are doing artificial for weddings these days. You can incorporate the pearls in the design if you can get a decent jeweller.
About shirt sizes, you should get a relative to ask outright what your fiance and BIL's shirt sizes actually are, because it's better to get something that fits properly rather than something that might not fit and be discarded. I'm sure they won't mind being asked.
For some people customary to buy an English formal suit for the groom, so if you want to do this, get his chest size, waist size and inside leg length. Do you know his height? Because that will be an indication of the jacket length.
WRT bedding as someone has suggested, bear in mind that beds in Pakistan are a totally different size to ones in UK, I think their kingsize is the equivalent of the UK Queensize. I would agree that it is a good thing to get at least 1 bed set that you like, but Pakistan is full of everything these days.
Perfumes, GO FOR IT in the xmas sales! Also check out post xmas toiletry/ make-up gift sets, good products are always appreciated.
Even if your fiance doesn't wear cufflinks or formal shirts, it may be good to get him one anyway, in case he attends formal functions. (BTW Tierack has got a whole load of sales on cufflinks last time I went past).
I have noticed that people in Pakistan request handbags from UK, so if you do happen to chance upon something decent like an everyday handbag, think about getting them for the nands / MIL bcos it's something they can make use of but it's not size specific.
Also, silver or artificial jewellery will also make nice gifts for SIL's, e.g. something from Jon Richards in Debenhams - they do stirling silver... and good sales!