The card says Mr. and Mrs.
Are infants included?
I’m assuming no, but I was wondering what people thought.
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it says
Mr & Mrs. ___________ with family
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^ if that's what it said, there wouldn't be an issue. I'm asking about the etiquette if it doesn't say "with family" and you have a newborn/infant.
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Hmmm i guess u can't assume. is it possible to call them up and ask? is it a desi or gora wedding? because as far as I know, desi weddings wouldn't deliberately exclude children....
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^ I think if it was a desi wedding, I definitely would.
The groom is a friend of mine from college (Indian), but the bride is white and I've never met her. I don't want to make a faux pas!
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^ hmm you should ask them because some gora weddings have no kids sometimes
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mr. and mrs. means just the couple. when it says mr, mrs and family, then obviously it's the entire family.
perhaps they don't know that you just had a baby? or maybe the cards were printed ahead of time, and at that time they weren't aware you were preggo?
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I agree ^
It could just be that the cards/labels were printed ahead of time.
I would just call and ask.
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I'm afraid he'd either feel obligated to say yes or bad about saying no. So I guess I should just assume no.
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I would say 'Yes' if it was a desi wedding. BTW, where would you leave a newborn?
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I was reading online to find out the answer. A lot of people seem to expect guests to hire a babysitter. Anyway both grandmas are close by. The thing is, the weddung is out of town. I’m not ready to leave her overnight, tho nani and dadi are great with her. I was hoping they’d come with us. Nani can’t; dadi seemed interested, but dada didn’t 
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Would you stay someplace if it is an overnight thing? Take dadi with you if you are going to. Imagine me asking someone to hire a babysitter here! I would NEVER be invited to any other wedding!
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I know. It's just very different in desi weddings.
We'd get a hotel (and a room for dadi dada too -- I don't want to separate them).
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Its great that you're being so considerate but if they're going to be offended at seeing a baby there...thats not your problem. Personally I don't think its fair because sh'es your daughter--you're not dragging along your entire extended family and neighbors as well (which I heard is very common in desi weddings).
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^ yes but the invite specifically says "mr. and mrs." only. sahar, i'd err on the side of caution and not take your daughter. if they truly are having a child-free wedding, it'll just be awkward for all involved if you show up with your babe. and if you don't feel comfortable leaving her and no one can come with you, then maybe its best you sit this one out?
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^I'm thinking the same thing.
Also, I can't find the envelope -- must've thrown it away, so I'm not even sure what it said. Silly me!
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^you can use this as an excuse and ask..that you've lost the envelope and not sure who was the invitation limited to.
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Anyways if you do go and find a few uninvited infants/babies there, do let us know. ;)
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^ LOL well, I emailed the groom and told him it would be hard for us. So unless he insists we bring the baby, I think I'll have to sit this one out. It's too bad tho, I was really looking forward to it! Any occasion to dress up, really :D.
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^ Oh, I do hope he insists.