So my wedding has been finalised in the month of ramadan. I am honestly very worried as to how it will work out. So has anyone attended a wedding in ramazan? And if yes please do share any advice on planning and managing it. Oh and I was thinking that the mehndi could be after aftari and we will serve sehri as food for the guests. What do you guys think?
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ooohh Sundae..I hope it turns out well for you. Honestly personally I would find it hard to attend a wedding during Ramadhan, cause there is taravi and a lot of people take it as a time to do ibadat. Its hard to get into wedding mode when you are doing day to day with fasting, iftar, squeeze in as much ibadat as possible and dont forget eid prep.
It could swing both ways though a lot of people do socialize like iftar parties so thats the other side of the coin. Then again fasting and wedding preps for the days event could get hectic and take its toll on the family members, I would think some super serious wedding prep in advance to take off the workload on family & if you have non muslim friends maybe they can chip in at a time like this. lol im going back and forth on this. Good luck to you!!!!
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Never been to or heard of a wedding in Ramadan.
As dulhan2015 has said, it's a time of ibadat. The time between iftari and sehri here is so short, so good luck to you trying to squeeze it all in. And not sure if people will attend ESP a mehndi where there will probably b singing n dancing during Ramadan.
How come ur getting married during then? Other than the actually wedding n all the preparation which is stressful enough, there is adjusting to married life which is hard work in itself.
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Think of the poor husband you stonehearted ppl 
He waited whole life long to getto this dream night of his and you want him to spend it with the masjid next door is relaying taraweeh on loudspeaker or the speech afterwards explaining the judgement day? Holy moly… good luck!
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Here's a thought, If you're getting maried during Ramadan, how about doing it the real Islamic way with just nikkah (haq mehr + 2 witnesses) and then a valima. Mehndi functions wagera really have nothing to do with anything. Do yo really think that between 15-16 hour fasts it's really appropriate or feasable to think about holding a hulla gullah mehndi function? It doesn't sound very fair to
hold people hostage until sehri lol just so you can have a mehndi.
If you REALLY want the whole 9 yards then push back your wedding date until after Eid. If that's not possible, then forgo all the rasm and extra frivalties and have your nikkah right before Iftar and then serve dinner after maghrib and wrap it up in time for taraaweeh. Your Valima can be held next day or whenever.
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Thankyou so much for your replies ppl. The wedding dates as much as I want to, cannot be changed since they will be flying in from outside of pakistan and will not have a long stay. The comfort of the people attending the functions is obviously one of the things I am super worried about. I am having my nikkah in a masjid, the valima will probably be after eid. I am trying to convince my family to fore go mehndi, mayoon, bridal shower etc but they have their reasons. So managing it in ramazan is yes, going to be horrible, but I have no other choice. So my idea was to start the mehndi after taraaweeh prayers say 9ish-10ish(on a weekend) and have a little fun and serve sehri to everyone attending.
As far as adjusting is concerned, i am not moving in with my in laws immediately since my visa and other stuff has to be processed. So will be staying with my parents post marriage.
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It sounds hectic but i personally would probably feel abit guilty of attending a mehndi dholki etc with 'a little fun' during ramadan the days are so long and fasting makes everyone tired. You said your walima is after eid right? So why not stick to rhe nikaah in ramadan, and have the mehndi the day before your walima or a big dholki session whcihever and do it that way.
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Thankyou so much for your replies ppl. The wedding dates as much as I want to, cannot be changed since they will be flying in from outside of pakistan and will not have a long stay. The comfort of the people attending the functions is obviously one of the things I am super worried about. I am having my nikkah in a masjid, the valima will probably be after eid. I am trying to convince my family to fore go mehndi, mayoon, bridal shower etc but they have their reasons. So managing it in ramazan is yes, going to be horrible, but I have no other choice. So my idea was to start the mehndi after taraaweeh prayers say 9ish-10ish(on a weekend) and have a little fun and serve sehri to everyone attending.
As far as adjusting is concerned, i am not moving in with my in laws immediately since my visa and other stuff has to be processed. So will be staying with my parents post marriage.
where are you located? Ramadan will be during the heart of summer in the Northern Hemisphere, with taraaweeh ending past 11pm and sehri ending around 4:45. That's a 4-5 hour time slot only. Are you in Australia?
I know you don't want to hear this but you probably should forgo the functions until after Ramadan. It just seems super awkward and slightly inappropriate to to have function like that during a month of intense worship and physical strain.
My elder sister got married last summer and so did my niece (Middle sisters daughter). Because of Ramadan falling smack in the middle of July and juggling two different grooms sides and their schedules, we had to hold one mehndi 3 days before Ramadan started and the nikkah and valima 5 days after Eid.
I know you're saying there is no choice but assay kya majboori hai that you must cram in a bridal shower, mayoun and mehndi in Ramadan? Try to reason with your parents. It makes more sense to hold all these functions at the time of your ruhksati when you will be leaving your parents house to go live with your husband. Just do the nikkah quietly but nicely now. After all, it's the nikkah that matters most and should be given sole importance.
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May be you can have bridal shower a month or so before ramadan.... they are usually 1-3 months before the wedding anyways.
The mayoon and mehendi don't have to have the guys side there... we did our mayoon separate so that can be held a few weeks before ramadan too.
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Yeah if you are going to be still living with your parents why not have all these functions when you will actually go live with you husband. Just do the nikkah and do the rest of the function when you have your actual rukhsati.
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it all also depends on how religious your friend/family is. I know it wouldn't work for us as a lot of our friends and families don't even attend iftaar dawat because they don't want to miss the taravi. But if you think your family and friends wouldn't mind missing taravi and dancing and stuff thn go for it.
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Thankyou so much for your replies ppl. The wedding dates as much as I want to, cannot be changed since they will be flying in from outside of pakistan and will not have a long stay. The comfort of the people attending the functions is obviously one of the things I am super worried about. I am having my nikkah in a masjid, the valima will probably be after eid. I am trying to convince my family to fore go mehndi, mayoon, bridal shower etc but they have their reasons. So managing it in ramazan is yes, going to be horrible, but I have no other choice. So my idea was to start the mehndi after taraaweeh prayers say 9ish-10ish(on a weekend) and have a little fun and serve sehri to everyone attending.
As far as adjusting is concerned, i am not moving in with my in laws immediately since my visa and other stuff has to be processed. So will be staying with my parents post marriage.
Hi Sundae, I hear you when it comes to the inlaws traveling from abroad. Unfortunately its becoming a common problem for families living abroad, they want to take a break during eid time/ramadhan to visit back home and it eats up their available time off from work.
My niece was supposed to have her wedding in Pakistan all fancy and then midway during their Eid visit her father in law and future husband realized that with they both wouldnt be able to take time off from their respective works coordinated till following year so she got married off in less than a months time and we had all the functions arranged in a crazy rush and a lot of family members missed the functions too :(
So I feel your pain, sometimes its not in our hands and you really want to make the best of a situation. Like many recommended try to do a nikkah simple during ramadhan its an ibadat month (and even serve dinner there so you can feed the poor and have their blessing at this auspicious time) and then maybe you can do a mehndi/sangeet the day before the valima that way your valima wont be just one random function and your in laws can be a part of it and it wont take away from their limited vacation time. :)
Please do share how your functions go, Im sure every guppan here will pray that a sister has a wonderful start to this new chapter in her life :)
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I can understand the constraint of having wedding in Ramadan. I can't understand the absolute need of having halla gulla, naach hungama. I dont want to throw a religious card on you, but you want your wedding and married life to have Allah's blessing more than the blessing of those who are expecting naach gana.
If you have to have your wedding in Ramadan, then use it to your advantage. Make it an example for others to follow. Show to the younger crowd that one can use this blessed month to start the most important part of life, and can do it in most blessed way
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You guys are awesome, honestly! Will try to work on all of these wonderful suggestions!
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I think I can't offer any other input aside from what has already been advised. I wanted to post earlier but couldn't... CONGRATS! and well wishes =)