Wedding Gifts - Who Gave How Much.....?

[Muzna]

Re: Wedding Gifts - Who Gave How Much.....?

@Paheli00

^ This. I don't understand keeping an written record of it down to the penny. Plus this tradition doesn't take into account people's financial situation. For example, back when my husband was still a resident/fellow, he wasn't making much money and couldn't afford much when attending weddings. But now that he's been working for a few years, things are different. Vice versa....at our wedding, there were couples that were earning $500K+ and then there were couples that has hourly jobs. I can't imagine going to a wedding of a resident who works with my husband or a legal assistant that works at my place and giving a gift based on the amount they gave us at our wedding.

I get what you mean.
It's never a difficult decision when you are in a better position than the other....and the ledger is never used as a measure to give ONLY as much as was received when we can certainly afford better. But when it comes to the matter of the larger amounts....ones that may be significantly notable (i.e. for today's economy let's say minimum $500) and difficult for us to return then yes, the ledger does make it's value known.

There will always be gifts that we will never be able to repay but at least we will make our best efforts to try.

[mizsani]

Re: Wedding Gifts - Who Gave How Much.....?

I don't get it because I gee what I can afford at the moment. My in laws tell me to write it down after each event but I don't see the need. The notable ones you sort of already remember... my MIL asks me what each person gave and she remembers... then sometimes she asks whether I am using it otherwise she likes to regift it to someone else... maybe if its actual gifts, the ledger is used for regifting?