Re: Wedding events
We were originally going to have Mayoun, Mehndi, and a Chura ceremony ( I am Hindu-Punjabi so we put these bangles on the day before the wedding that requires another small function) and then Wedding and Reception on the same day. BUT looking at schedules, my parents hosting out of town people, and just finances in general We are actually combining the Mayoun and Mehndi into one day. At first it sounded weird but the more I thought about it the more it made sense.
So now I am having the Mayoun/Mehndi the weekend before the wedding on one day. We’re starting at around 4 PM with Mayoun first, then my mom is serving heavy chai with chat and snacks. Then I am going to go shower and get ready for Mehndi, and we will start that around 7-8pm. Do the mehndi rasms and Dinner at 930 ish. Dancing from 10 - 11 pm and I think since its a long function people will probably leave before midnight. We reserved a really beautiful clubhouse in my aunt’s neighborhood that has a pool and playground attached. It will be late April so I think this will be great for kids to go outside and play while we do the rasms inside.
Then two days before the wedding I am getting my actual mehndi done at home with just my mom and sister. After Mehndi is applied and dried, we’ll be doing the Chura ceremony with just family.
The day before the wedding I have no events and I am kind of glad. This will give me a chance to regroup and get small last minute things done before checking into the hotel for the wedding.
I am sure there will be dholki’s here and there - maybe a big one hosted by family friends 2-3 weeks before the wedding and maybe one spontaneous one the week of the wedding, but I don’t plan on making a big huge deal out of them. Streamlining my events and keeping it as stress free as possible but still enjoyable is my focus. Plus with the money I am saving I can splurge more on the wedding and reception!
My thing is - do what makes sense for your personality, your family, and your pocket. Break conventional “rules” and do things differently if you have to or want to! and HAVE FUN!
that sounds fun!
y’all are right. I think with my love for desi culture/weddings + seeing 093809382 billion events in our community for weddings + liking dressing up makes for a BAD combo. But considering fiance and I have boards and our friends/family are all from out of town/cross country and in medical school/law school/working crazy jobs, trying to get people to fly out a week in advance is going to be selfish and unreasonable. My bridesmaids want to do a weekend spa trip instead of a mayoun as soon as I get done with boards (like literally an hour after) and I think I’d rather do that than sit on stage and have aunties force feed me mithai (maybe…lol)