So I have a little dilemma! My fiance is exactly my height, maybe just a teeny, almost unnoticeably taller. So I don’t wanna wear heels on my wedding. I’m anyways not used to wearing high heels, I’m tall plus I can’t walk much in high heels. But on a regular day, I don’t care too much about lookign slightly taller than him if I decide to wear tiny heels.
But for my Reception, I definitely don’t wanna look taller than him, esp in the photoshoot and our first dance and entrance etc. I don’t midn wearing really tiny heels…but would that look weird? My lehenga will cover my feet, so I guess it won’t be showing constantly. But I’m not sure if that’ll look odd. I know it’s a silly issue but yeah well, lol.
not at all! kitten heels are awesome. you can go with slingbacks to make it a bit dressier if you don't want to do pumps. peep toes also look adorable in kitten heels. you could even do open sandals with a kitten heel. yay! i live in them in the summertime. you could also go the traditional route and wear a pair of really pretty khussas.
whatever shoe you choose, remember to take it with you for your final fitting so they can adjust the length of your lehenga/gharara to make sure it isn't too short or too long. sometimes they make it longer on purpose to account for a high heel. i remember mine was almost 6 inches longer! ridiculous. i had to have the seamstress fold the waistband up even though i was wearing 5" heels.
Wear pretty flats, that'll look fine. There's no "rule" for right and wrong at a wedding - remember it's your day and whatever makes you happy and comfortable is what you should do.
I had the same issue when I was getting married. If you're not walking in together, you should get a pair of kitten heels for your entrance. On my baraat, I walked in kitten heels b/c everyone insisted that heels add grace to your walk, then when I sat down on stage w/him, my aunt quickly switched out my shoes for some fancy flat chappals that I wore for the rest of the night. On my walima, I wore flat chappals the whole night. Good luck!
That's a relief to hear! Everyone I've talked to outside my family has said 'heels are a must!!' and that it'll look funny if I don't wear heels. But I don't want to and this thread makes me feel better. hehe.
Khussas are a good idea - I wonder if I can find nice ones in Toronto...or if there's even a khussa store in Toronto.
Another thing - finding fancy shoes in kitten heels is so hard or even flats. Most stores I've been to have high heels for shoes that I can consider wearing as a bride.
im gonna be a stick in the mud. heels change the figure and therefore the drape of the outfit which looks much more elegant with proper heels on. i find kitten heels don't do that.
so just make sure your outfit looks good (and not frumpy from the back - you know what i mean), if you're wearing flats or kitten heels.
My best friend is about 5'10 and her hubby was just under 6 foot, so she was really paranoid about wearing any heels, even though EVERYONE kept telling her to. She ended up wearing really pretty gold coloured khussay which looked pretty, and they hardly showed at all from under the khussay.
Yeah I'm around 5'8 and my fiance 5'8.5 or a lil more or so. So I really don't wanna do heels. stopit, I know what you mean - heels def. gives you the elegance...but I guess ince I'm tall, maybe, hopefully the fall of the lehenga won't look bad.
Dang girl! 5’8"! With that height…you don’t need any help with looking elegant!
I have a couson who literally wore fancy flats at her wedding b/c her husband is actually 2 inches shorter than her. Since your outfit will be covering your feet anyway…and most of the time you’re either sitting down or walking around…people won’t be looking at your feet.
But as SGC said…please take your shoes when you get outfit fitted. I ordered my reception outfit and they made the lehenga 4 inches LONGER than I asked them too! Even with 4.5 inch heels…it’s still too long for me to walk comfortably. So I’m getting it shortened. So yea…make sure the shoes are with you.
I'd go for a khussa. Super traditional and would look lovely. Or like the above poster said for the walk in wear a heel to get that posture you cant get from flats. And then switch to a khussa.
If you do opt for the shoe switch, my opinion is that kitten heels are a good option b/c you don't want a drastic difference in height, or else your guests will know something is up! Also, both pairs should be easy to slip off and slip into, so the switch can be quick and discrete. And the shoes don't have to be incredible. They won't even show. The kitten heels that I chose were basic gold thongs, just dressy enough, nothing special. I literally wore them for 60 seconds. Noone even noticed.
I've never seena bride wear flats but it's awesome to hear that there have been some :D. Now I gotta hunt for either pretty khussas in Toronto or fancy flats.
SGC - Those are so purty!!! Esp. the 2nd one - I'd love something like that...only with it was in even smaller heels, because even those kinda heels would make him look taller than him. I'm still planning on going to Buffalo for some shopping - will check out those shoes and might still get the 2nd one - just not for the wedding day though.
I've never been able to find pretty khussa in Toronto, if you find a place, you should post it here so others can check it out.
I know in the UK you can order them online from a place called kadam shoes. But they charge about $20 a pair, and I can't bring myself to pay that much when I think how much they cost me in Pakistan.
These do look cute! My mom actually did bring these silver sandals with similar kinda heels from Pakistan. But I also am not a big fan of my toes so I’m not sure if I want open toed sandal style shoes lol. Although feet will be covered with lehenga.
I go to Town Shoes sometimes at Eaton Centre cuz I work right there but I’ve only seen high heels so far there.
@tea1234 - those are pretty too but see, even that little heel is gonna make me look taller than him. On a regular day, I don’t care but I don’t want that for the wedding. And aww, thanks so much for offering! But shoes are always harder to buy without trying them on so it’s okiee
Even with 4.5 inch heels…it’s still too long for me to walk comfortably. So I’m getting it shortened. So yea…make sure the shoes are with you. 
