I always wanted to get married in cold weather, or atleast pleasant.. however im stuck to bad weather wedding.. as this dec isn’t possible for my sisters husband (he cant take off) and the next opton is the summer break.. (august).
my in laws are in Canada and sister is in uk. they all have jobs and schools.. so my in laws wan that I get married in august while I suggested that we wait for dec 2015.. but my father in law said its too late.. and he doesn’t want to wait so much.
as hes alone here with his one son ( my husband ) due to job while othes are in Canada.
I told my sister this and she started off at me that why is he being so selfish and dominating. it is ur wedding u get to decide.
im feeling v sad that what if he dominates us forever!?
Its just a wedding, why is the weather of utmost importance ?
You'd rather wait a year 'cuz of the weather ? Sounds crazy to me. Its just a few hours. Have an indoor wedding if the weather is bad. Simple.
Your sister needs to be careful about the things she says. I understand that it's natural for parents and siblings to get defensive, but they shouldn't respond in a way that can incite or fuel one against their spouse.
You sister is wrong. This wedding is not only yours. You and your family don't have a monopoly over the wedding. It is also your fiance's wedding and him and his family get a say in things too. You both will have to compromise.
As far as winter is concerned, then most likely your shadi ...like most Desi shadis...will take place at night when it's cooler.....and the guests will be transported in air-conditioned cars to the wedding which will take place in an amply air-conditioned ballroom/hall. Had you gotten married in the winter, it would still be an indoor wedding and the guests would not really be exposed to the winter weather. If the weather was a central "theme" for your wedding, then you'd have it on the beach or outdoors where people can feel the warmth of the sun or the cool wind or see the sand or the snow around them. But you and your groom and all the guests will not be interacting with the weather during an indoors wedding. So, it should not be a big deal. I'm sure that kids in the UK get summer vacations? Or if you're that bothered by it then consider having the wedding in Spring or in the fall if you're that intent on the weather being cooler....but it may be hard for those who work to take leave. I don't think this should be an issue when there are other, more important details to mull over.
Are you going to have your wedding on a huge empty lot with the sun beaming down on you? Which year is it? 1952 that people set up tents and put chairs and have those horrendous old school tent weddings? Have you heard of a place called "Shaadi haal" yaa phir "Shaadi ka mundup"? Also there is another thing called Air conditioners. They cool the warm air. You should tell the Mundup walas to crank up the AC to -10 degrees then you can all wear jackets inside the hall. It'll be exactly like December.
I think you should think about this clearly with a cool head. It is very common for parents to give input on when the wedding should be.....not dominating at all.
I know a lot of people who wouldn't like a year plus wait between the rishta/engagement and wedding.
December 2015 is a long time away, ur FIL is not being selfish. I don't really agree with really long engagements. Anyhow it should b a joint decision. I think ur sister is out of line saying that about your FIL. Does ur BIL really need to b there? If so then how about Easter/spring break? Otherwise just have it in the summer, what's the big deal? AC n all that help.
Is it actually going to be an outdoor wedding? If so, I can understand why the weather would be an issue as mine was a daytime, partly outdoor, wedding and the weather was definitely a consideration.
If it is not going to be an outdoor wedding, why is the weather an issue? Once they arrive at the venue, most guests typically pay more attention to the decor and food than to the weather outside.
I always wanted to get married in cold weather, or atleast pleasant.. however im stuck to bad weather wedding.. as this dec isn't possible for my sisters husband (he cant take off) and the next opton is the summer break.. (august).
my in laws are in Canada and sister is in uk. they all have jobs and schools.. so my in laws wan that I get married in august while I suggested that we wait for dec 2015.. but my father in law said its too late.. and he doesn't want to wait so much.
as hes alone here with his one son ( my husband ) due to job while othes are in Canada.
I told my sister this and she started off at me that why is he being so selfish and dominating. it is ur wedding u get to decide.
im feeling v sad that what if he dominates us forever!? :(
Please help me.
Um, you might want to think about this with a level head...
Your sister is wrong for saying such things to you...she is upset because it might be convenient for her but that does not give her the right to start a fire.
You have a longggg life ahead of you...where you WILL have issues...the wedding date is not...should not be one of them.
well your sister sounds a little selfish too, she wants yo uto decide the date based on when HER husband gets off? is he the most important member of the family that his presence (or lack thereof) can dictate your wedding?
Your sister is trying to be dominating as well here. With busy schedules and families spread world apart these days, not necessarily everyone will be free at the same time for an event.
Now it's the weather......then it's the sister's husband....then it will be something else....Do what you think is right. Stop relating this thing to some future event that hasn't even occurred (ref. Fil dominating in future etc).
I would say go for dec 2014. the most important people and the schedules are the couple, their parents, siblings, friends, siblings spouses..in that order.
I always wanted to get married in cold weather, or atleast pleasant.. however im stuck to bad weather wedding.. as this dec isn't possible for my sisters husband (he cant take off) and the next opton is the summer break.. (august).
my in laws are in Canada and sister is in uk. they all have jobs and schools.. so my in laws wan that I get married in august while I suggested that we wait for dec 2015.. but my father in law said its too late.. and he doesn't want to wait so much.
as hes alone here with his one son ( my husband ) due to job while othes are in Canada.
I told my sister this and she started off at me that why is he being so selfish and dominating. it is ur wedding u get to decide.
im feeling v sad that what if he dominates us forever!? :(
Please help me.
Your sister is being unreasonable. She basically wants the whole wedding arranged for when it is convenient for her husband which isn't fair to your in-laws. When I got married, my in-laws told me to choose the date which I did. However, had they suggested a date (for valid reasons, such as your FIL has), I would never have dreamed of complaining. And why on earth would you want to wait until Dec 2015?! After hubby and I got nikkah-fied we wanted a date asap. There's no point delaying it. I would advise you to listen to your FIL and ignore your sister, because she doesn't seem to be very sensible in this matter.
