Im curious to know..from what i seen in the image gallery of SHAHZAD612 and his new wife,the one photo showed the flowers on strings coming down from the ceiling,around the bed…
My question is, “is this tradition for the wedding bedroom???”
I want to do as much tradition as possible when i marry my sweetheart…someone clue me in on the small marriage details…
For topics concerning cultural issues we have a Culture forum, where you will find a broader audience who will respond to your questions.
Moved from Corner Room to the Culture forum.
yeaha, this is a tradition .. on weddings they decorate bedroom especially bed with red roses and other beautiful flowers. and some other decorative stuff as well. It's a person's choice what kinda decoration they want.
So are you Pakistani??? or your sweet heart is???and you are learningit for him/her?/
Thanks secret_obsession..
My sweetheart is pakistani,i am american…and learning as much as i can from this forum…
So if anyone can give me more info on any of the traditions, including the wedding id be ever so greatful…
I liked many of the Pakistani culture BUT I have to say you guys have too much Hindu influence, what's up with that?
Most of the pakistani have a hindu influence on their life style, although it depends where ur fore fathers were from.
Bluebell, it's Indian culture and doesn't necessarily have to be 'Hindu'.
I do not see any formal guidelines anywhere on how to decorate one's room for a wedding so i'm sure there is no harm in following cultural norms.
There is No Spoon
I wasn't talking about the room or bed or where ever, that's fine. But Pakistanis have a lot of Indian influence. Many of the Pakistanis weddings I have been to are just like Hindu weddings. Even in Pakistani movies they have Indian actors and so on.
it's not really hindu influence...it's just that Indians and Pakistanis are basically same people. we belong to same region ethnically are same. speaks pretty much same language, eat same food...we have lived together for centuries.
so off course two cultures are a lot similiar... they adopted aspects of our culture and we theirs. Maybe it's because two have same origion.
so there are smilarites in south asian cultures even with religius differences.
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Wedding Customs: Pakistan
Mienu is the very first ceremony of Pakistani wedding after the engagement. From this day on, the bride is proscribed from the groom's eyes till the day of marriage. Both sides celebrate this occasion separately and at their own expense.
The night before the wedding, the bride dyes her hands with henna (Mehndi). The groom's family brings the bride's wedding dress to her house and the bride’s family takes the groom’s wedding attire to his house. The event is very colorful and full of traditional songs and dances. The whole affair could last longer then one day.
Shadi is the actual wedding day. The ceremony is arranged by the bride's family and Barat (groom's friends and family) come to the bride's house. Red clothing symbolizes this day of Shadi. The Nikah ceremony is performed by the Imam (priest) in the presence of Baraties. After the formalities of Nikah, the bride and groom are declared husband and wife. Dinner is then served by bride's family. Rokhsati (the bride leaves her parent's home to start a new life) is the last event of the day.
Valima is the fourth and last day of the wedding. The groom's side invites all the guests to celebrate this event. The newly wedded couple welcomes the guests and family, and then mingles with them throughout the dinner
good luck.. and how about your sweet heart???is that a girl or boy??? are you learning urdu??
Thanks secret_obsession...
does the bride always wear red on wedding day??? Is there a symbolism behind this??
I read somewhere that pakistani women dont wear white like american women do. Is this true???.....the white symbolizes a clean beginning,purity,virginity(not always)
And is henna applied for other traditions,festivities..etc......?????
My sweetheart is a great MAN whom god has blessed me with,im ever so thankful to god....
As for the urdu,im learning some from my sweetheart,and some online. But he says there is a difference in some urdu...some is a pure old form ..then there is a more recent one that differs from the original form....i make a point to try and look up most of the words on this forum,but not all is definable from the dictionaries online.
God bless all
yeaha, usually brides wear red color… but it’s not alwys like that .. i am going to wear navy blue and silver, and on other day maroon and golden.
so it depends on you, you can wear other than red. ..red color represensts marriage or sohag..(husband)
and we put mehndi on several occassions like eid… or it can be put on any time..
on wedding bride’s friends hide groom’s name on her hand (in mehndi design) and he have to find it. which is often complicated
secret_obsession..u said “i am going to wear navy blue and silver”
Will you be getting married soon? or your just planning ahead?
At this point my colors might be green and gold…the name i used for yahoo account when my sweetheart and i met had emerald in the title..so he is planning on buying me a wedding ring with an emerald (green is my favorite color)
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but i love the idea of silver with green accents…still looking thru the websites on wedding attire,since i cant find any stores in my state or close by yet to shop at…
share a smile and gain a friend
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i am not getting married any soon… i am just planning ahead..
when I was 11 years ago, we went to buy wedding outfits for my cousion. she picked a white and pink one… that day I saw a pretty marron and golden outfit and decided that these are the colors i will wear…
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green is one of my favorite colors too… there are several days of marriage…on mayion bride wear yellow color… I don’t like yellow but thats what the tradition is for that day..
so what are u planning for other days???
Hey Secret but not ALL Pakistanis do the same things right? Because I have many pakistani freinds and every single one of them is very different then the other. I have been to all of their weddings and everyone was different, only one was like what you have said all the rest different.
Hey tell me something, does the brides family buy gifts for the guy?? I have heard that once and thought wow thats sooooooo different compard to other Muslims.
My freind's family did NOT buy the groom anything. And the whole wedding thing was'nt that long. I guess it not only differes from country to country but also in the country itself.
yeaha, traditionally they buy gifts for groom and not just for groom but for his entire family..especially for women in his family....
it cost too much, for some families it is a burden.. i wish we didn't had this tradition.
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Hey tell me something, does the brides family buy gifts for the guy?? I have heard that once and thought wow thats sooooooo different compard to other Muslims.
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Often a sad spillover from hindu culture. Fortunately, in the region of India where my family originally is from (Hyderabad), there tended to be a strong separation of Hindu culture from Muslim culture - hence practices like the bride's family buying gifts for the groom's don't occur during weddings in my family.
pakistanis and north indians have more common
culture compared dravidian south.
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green is one of my favorite colors too... there are several days of marriage...on mayion bride wear yellow color... I don't like yellow but thats what the tradition is for that day..
so what are u planning for other days???**
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Well ive read of the other colors...with the wedding maybe only being my side of the family i will only have one color..but if all goes well and his parents accept me, then im hoping to do the traditional way of the colors and festivities....we need lots of prayers...
my prayers are with you... hope you two have a great life..