Wearing nikah outfit on valima

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I’ll be getting married in my hometown, where my fiancé has no family. After the wedding, we’ll be going to his hometown where his family is hosting a simple valima but with lots of guests. The people there don’t know me at all, so my MIL wants me to be dressed as the ‘bride’ in my nikah outfit. I’m not sure how I feel about this. On the one hand I feel it’ll be a chance for me to wear my bridal outfit again but at the same time I feel I shouldn’t be wearing the same outfit to two of my own wedding functions. Then again I feel it’s ok to do so because it’ll be a completely different event in a different city with different guess, but in the pics it’ll still be the same outfit, worn again. What would you guys do? Would you wear the same outfit or would you let th in laws know you want to wear something else and go get one?

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hmm.........depends on your financial situation I guess. My head is saying just wear the dress again, but no-one there will have seen it, and you don't want to be wasting money.............but my heart is saying you only get married once, and it's the biggest day of your life when everyone makes a fuss over you, and you should milk it as much as possible

hmmm..........since we get married with our hearts and not our heads, I'm gonna say GET A NEW DRESS!! hehehe :P

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You could wear the same outfit, but style it differently e.g. different shoes, makeup and jewellery. That way you won't look exactly the same.

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Hm. My bro and bhabi had all their wedding functions here, but when they went to Pak her parents hosted another reception and she wore her wedding outfit again because they wanted her to be a bride. And it was fine. But they had had 4 main functions in their hometown already.

Maybe you can get a new Valima outfit that still has a bridal feel.

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I agree with uzzybuzzy. This is somewhat similar to the situation some brides face with their in-laws choosing their wedding dress. I say skip the drama and wear the outfit they want you to wear, but dress it differently. Since you said it's a small function, maybe you can have your hair showing, different makeup, jewelry, etc. You can make it look completely different.

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Repeat the outfit but maybe change up your hair and makeup and well as the duppatta style and the money you save from not purchasing the new outfit, u can take a mini vacay with hubs or even put it together for purchasing something delish for your house.

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you could try changing the look, like different dupatta style? depending on your outfit if its a long shirt wear a churidaar under it instead and keep the kameez? if you already have churidaar then change the bottoms to a floaty lengha?

or if you can afford it...just go out and buy a new outfit :D

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You could try altering the outfit?

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wear a diff outfit ... maybe something heavy/formal from your trousseau?
wearing it with your bridal jewelery, and dupatta on head would add to the "bridal" feel of the look

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you could either wear a different outfit or as said above modify the looks of it by wearing it with different accessories and hairstyle.. after the walima ceremony you could have a couple photo session and in that you can wear both your nikkah dress and any other dress you love :) this way you will have awesome pics in two dresses.. :)

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If your MIL really wants you to wear the same outfit...wear it.

Change things up a bit where it doesn't look like the first function though. Hair different, dupatta different, etc.

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How about changing one part of the outfit altogether.Whichever part would be the simplest to change without causing too much stress. Eg you could just change the duppata to a contrast colour and get different style work done on the border.U could go for a different fabric choice like velvet is back these days so add that into your outfit .

Here is what one bride did to re-use her valima sharara: she cut up her dupata which was in a light fabric (net or chiffon type) & it had heavily worked borders. She wore it as a front open open coat over her sharara . Basically it added volume and the work was concentrated all in the front of the outfit till knee length where the flair of the sharara took over. It looked gorgeous.

I know another bride that changed her valeema shirt as she had a segregated function and wouldnt be able to wear it to other functions.

If you have time, then there are a lot of options :) I'd suggest focusing on either the kameez or dopes as that is what is seen in most pics specially family portraits etc.

Hope this helps. and do let us know what you decide :)

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That sounds divine!!!!!!

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Thanks :)

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Thanks for the ideas and suggestions. I've come to terms with wearing the outfit to two of the wedding functions, so I'll be wearing my nikah outfit to the valima in a different town - it will be a different kind of event altogether. :)

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Good luck with it! Enjoy yourself :)

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My friend was in a smiliar situation, she wore the same outfit to both events, but changed up the jewllery, and hair,, so it looked really different. I dont think there is anything wrong that that.

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Thanks for all the suggestions!

So it turned out that the event was actually quite informal and I felt I'd be overdressed in my wedding outfit, so I wore a pretty suit.