salams
Have you ever been so impressed by someone of your same gender, and it could be for many different reasons, that you lose your ownself in their company and subconsciously start copying them. Its not even being impressed, but somehow you feel inferior to them which could be a result of your own inferiority complex or of the other person’s superiority complex. You act like them to make them like you more because somewhere you sense they are looking down at you or you act like them because you think that they are more successful in certain aspects and you want to be successful in those aspects too.
The root of it is probably a lack of self confidence and faith in your ownself.
Its not healthy at all, because that person might be the opposite of what you truly believe to be right and what your true self is. This blind mimicry leads you to feel like a hypocrite and worsens your self esteem. In essence you have shunned your ownself to copy the other person.
You always realise later, that you should have just stayed your ownself and progressed in your own natural direction according to your personality than having followed someone else. But by that time, you’re already at the crossroads of confusion, exemplified by the saying in Urdu, kawwa chala hans kee chaal, apni bhee bhool gya.
I am really impressionable and I often find myself doing this 
Its happenned a couple of times to me, and now when I look back I know it was a terrible mistake to have done this. I really wish I could be the person I originally was. I used to be a much much much much much much much much better person. There’s been a decline in every single aspect of my personality and life during the latter half of my life, which is ofcourse not just because of this reason, but this is one of the major reasons.
Khayr, I don’t know what the point of this post is… I think I just wanted to say to everyone, PLEASE BE YOURSELF. HAVE FAITH IN YOURSELF. LOVE YOURSELF. sigh Look who’s talking! :(] But please never ever be impressed by anyone enough to shun yourself and copy them. That is wrong. You violate your own being by doing so. Plus, its ungratefulness to the Creator, as you are not thankful for what He has made you.
We all want respect from others. That’s the only thing we want. If you are confident in yourself and respect yourself…when you don’t run after trying to copy others who impress you, when you are grounded and content in your own personality, that is when people will truly respect you.
We have a complete moral and socioreligious code laid out in front of us in the Quraan and Sunnah. We should emulate that, rather than emulating other mortals.
