Re: we were on a BREAK....
I applaud you completely for you mature attitude. I firmly believe that just as your financial futures become joined together at marriage, your financial pasts should be boudn together too.
Thanks!
You see the thing is, a lot of people prior to the actual wedding treat the groom as an outsider...not as one of their own...so yes it's almost like a business relationship.
From the outset of our engagement, ma'sha allah my mum and family in general treated my hubby as their own.... I think it's absolutely crucial.
Slightly different tangent but same subject.....my SIL recently got engaged and insha allah her wedding is in December (in India)...now her inlaws have said that they will be giving her RS xx,000 so that she can buy her jewellery and clothes from them. Then immediately the boys family said that "you will be giving them something won't you? What value?" so they agreed RSyy,000.....
Now in my opinion, that means taht the boys side only have to fork out RSzz,000 (ie the difference between what they are giving to the girl and what the girls side are paying......
These things just make me cringe...and yes it does affect the relationship between parents - but more importantly between the new husband and wife!