We want to marry each other, need advice!

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Re: We want to marry each other, need advice!

Your situation brought a smile to my face. Wish you two best of luck !

I can understand her parent’s reaction. There are so many creeps and criminals out there that girls’ families get freaked out when they learn from her about some random ‘guy she met online’. You’ll have to figure out a different way to introduce yourself to her family.

Re: We want to marry each other, need advice!

Well the happy part or the sad part? :stuck_out_tongue:

Understandable but they should’ve reached out to my family. They never did. But I do understand your point.
Well, that’s why I posted the thread. Any suggestions are more than welcome.

Re: We want to marry each other, need advice!

get ur parents to somehow mingle with hr parents, very subtle and gradual, her parents shud not realise ur parents are ‘that online guy she met’ ones, once the two families know each other reasonably well, then they can pop the question for u, make it look like arranged marriage rishta

Re: We want to marry each other, need advice!

I agree with @NavAhmed

Re: We want to marry each other, need advice!

Hahaa
I was once asked by daughter of one of my longtime patients to help get her married to a person, whom she loved, but they could not break it to her parents.

Boy was someone I did not know at all, so to make things believable I asked him to befriend one of my colleagues, then mentioned to her parents that there is an eligible bachelor, one of my friend knows, and then the two families met and now they have a cute little kid.i

So yes, something along the lines Nav suggested.

Re: We want to marry each other, need advice!

If you really care about this girl, you will NOT even think about doing anything that will cause her parents to stop supporting her education. Both of you are still very young. Are you done with your education? Do you have a full-time job? Are you in a position to support a wife and potential child right now?

My advice is to cool things off. She needs time to mature emotionally, finish her education AND gain her parents trust back. She can’t do all that if she’s focused on doing stuff right now to get married to you.

In 2 years she may come to Pakistan for her masters. Wait until then. You sound very confidant that both of you will not move on from each other so 2 years should not be a problem. Once she finishes her current undergraduate degree and comes to Pakistan, arrange to meet her in person. If at that time, both of you still feel the same, then worry about coming up with a plan. Meanwhile, focus on your own education and your own career. Get yourself into a position where her parents will not question your ability to take care of their daughter in any way (including financially).

Re: We want to marry each other, need advice!

Of course the happy part brought the smile. The happy part in your situation is that you two like each other and want to get married. Also that your parents are ok to meet this family. Involve some trusted relative, friend, etc. for the formal introduction as others have suggested.
If you two think you guys can sustain married life, no need to delay. If you guys have support of both families, education/jobs can continue throughout your lives iA. Its beautiful to get married early. Since both families will be onboard iA, you won’t have many of the financial worries.