Re: We both firm to marry but not both families
NJMasti, That is what I am requesting to both side elders. Secondly, I requested my family "how much easy is it to remove the affiliations created during the engagement?".
I agree with NJMast, this does not mean that I am disagree with RealityCheck. Engagement has some significant but we the people with the south east asian culture prolong it too much that we fell into deap conflictions.
I once heared from a well known Islamic Scholar that we made Nikah difficult that's why we fell into deap social problem. So try to make it simple.