Dear Fellows,
I need a moral help. I describe the story first:
One and a half year ago, two of the families decided to engage me with Hina. I was asked before going to start the talks with the other family.
Hina’s father is Prof. Sh. M. Ashfaq and his family became agree on the proposal and almost after 6 months a formal engagement of me and Hina was done, in December 2007. Good time passed in 4-5 months and during that both of families have no confliction between them. After that confliction and missunderstanding started occuring between two families.
Actually, Hina’s parent asked for immidiate marriage but my parents replied that thay wanted to perform another duty alongwith that marriage, that is in shape of marriage of my sisters. My in-laws refused to accept this and said to keep the things independent of each other. My father in law also foreced my side to show a timeline for the program. Because we were searching for bridegrooms for my sisters, so it was difficult to show a discrete timeline. That point was taken very serious by the both families and this point dissected both of the families.
After that discuss, the communication went into jam mode and nobody from each of the family tried to contact each other. Heads of each family kept expectation that the other side should have to contact. (and after a long time both have this justification that other side did not try to contact us).
In the meanwhile I and Hina decide to leave each other in such situation because we both have no guilty in all the matter. (We are still firm)
The 3rd sources (neighbours and other people) double crossed both sides and acted a very negative role and passed negative remarks of the one side to the other. That communication was completely based on lie. I tried to communicate this thing to heads of each family but no body tried to understand my request.
After 4-5 month of our engagement my parents broken our engagement. I and Hina showed our reactions and anger immidiately to our respective families. But we found that no one was going to understand our feelings.
After this insident, Hina’s family started looking an alternative for her. But she asked them that she was not agree. But they tried to blackmail her emotionally. She is still firm and denying to accept what her parents are saying on this point.
On the other hand, I became quite for sometime in my home. But after some time I started requesting again to my elders that how could we start talking again with Hina’s family. Actually I and Hina decided to get married under the prayer of our parents. But now the situation is that ego is biggest god here which is hurdle in the way of our life.
I and Hina are still hopeful that we’ll get married with each other. We are just looking around for the safest way.
Does anyone have solution for this problem. My yahoo id is mfaisalmirz, for suggestions.
Regards,
Faisal