“Am I simply good enough for her? Am I good looking enough? Do I actually make enough money to make the necessary impact? What more can I do to be a better boyfriend?”. And the absolute gem. “I want a Girlfriend because I will be more happy, more complete!”. Needless to say, I bert stared at the young bright punk’s face like I’ve never before.
Similar sorts of common voices are heard by a bunch of beta boys of this age, or the voices they hear in their heads. It is as if these Boys are a bunch of addicts with praise happening to be their drug of choice and Women are their dealers.
That way I suggest, how about we pitch in with a more radical idea? Why don’t men, Men ourselves, start mirin ourselves prior we begin to admire somebody else?
I mean, if it is true when they say “you won’t find love until you can manage to love your own very self.” And if you don’t have your life in order, then you shouldn’t ever need to complain about being trapped into a woman’s game, because then, forever you shall be looking up to them to measure the success that has been attained by sheer self will and sweat.
I’ve always been of the thought of how you’re supposed to find someone to share your happiness and well being with, not the other way around.
What I genuinely mean by this post is pretty simple logic. Do not put any woman before your own self. Do not simply shed or shred off your manliness just to please a girl because thats not what manliness is all about, it is indoubtedly the most destructive insult to fellow Men. Not mentioning how undesirable this trait is going to be to the ultimate Goddess a man is often found dreaming or wetting his blankets over for. You’re always to concentrate on your own self. As we, ourselves, are the measure of our own created empire of success.
Re: WE are Men, and Women are simply not to be the measure of our Success.
meh. not as terrible as girls who's value is all in relation to a man--be it father, brother, spouse, son. and tha'ts far far more common in our society than boys wanting GFs.
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^ What part makes you say that?
It's natural for single people to do things to attract the opposite gender. Urgh.....where is Ghost14?
There's just nothing to disagree there. This case though is more of a valid rant against common teenage boys who have to give me reasons (In the gym) as mentioned in the OP for their glamorous off tracking in life.
If I could, what may your thoughts be on boys (Mainly within the 15-22 age spectrum) who go about measuring their success based on the overheard (atleast to me) thoughts mentioned in the OP.
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Oh I see this trend among young people....how to "impress" girls. Somewhat equal to girls worrying about how to tart up. The root cause is the ever so increasing materialism and shallowness among humankind.
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^ Precisely. The root cause that brings out the dumb behavior in us men would be the floating little brain that controls us. Girl logic on the other hand, frankly, would be something I’ve never managed to get a grip on in its entirety, therefore will choose not to risk a dime on that one.
Example:
Guy: What’s the matter?
Girl: Sigh. Nothing.
Guy: Okay. Well, just let me know if you need to talk.
(Three hours later)
Girl: OMG you’re such a worthless (insert curse word) jerk!
Guy: What the hell? What did I do?
Girl: YOU WEREN’T THERE FOR ME!
Guy:
And this one I heard the other day:
Girl: Sorry, I was being such a witch.
Guy: Its ok.
Girl: So you think I’m a witch? You dumb nut. @#$#$#$#.
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I mean, if it is true when they say "you won't find love until you can manage to love your own very self."
Careful though, too much self love is can cause chaffing, and is definitely a sin.
It's natural for single people to do things to attract the opposite gender. Urgh.....where is Ghost14?
I r here but why am I being thrown in with Exodus? :p
I get the gist of his post though. It might be different in Desi communities, but in the West, except for a few select males, guys are at the mercy of women. Call it payback for mens' Mad Men style treatment of women but it's definitely rough on guys.
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just find someone your heart, mind and body (including ur lil brain) approve of/like very much...be nice to them and hope that she likes u back too....then u wont have to worry abt competition and impressing anyone. and if she's the right grl for u she wont measure ur success by what u cant achieve.
