we are definatly moving :[ dnt want to go.

[diwana]

@nadz123

i may have mentioned a year or so ago that my then-fiance was looking to move back to pak. i knew in my heart of hearts that if i refused to marry someone i actually really liked jsut because of this i may regret it later. my desire to live here in the uk forever, doesnt mean i was going to end up marying a british boy and being happy…anyway i got used to the idea..and now after inshallah a healthy birth in sep, we may move…few months after that. in fact its more definate. reason is because of his parents. they dont want to move here and wont. he has to be there for his parents, he is the eldest. and i respect that. i wish my own brother would do the same whens hes older. however no matter how i mtry to like this arrangement, i cant. i dread it. i know halaat are bad, he knows it too, however his parents are happy there and wont move no matter what happens. so u guys telling me to discuss these things wont matter. my husband has already tried and they dont want to move here. and i cant expect him and his family to move here on my whim.

i opened a thread about pakistan, and how its not so great, and all of you were against that, and seemed very loyal towards it. well i kinda need that advice now.

thanks

and also can u tell me, how many months does the baby need to be before travelling, and im not sure if how soon he wants to go after, but what would be ideal…and it cant be too long.

buit more info-his mum is ill, many operations. and sis is 23 needs to get married, and he has nother brothers whose the youngest. so all is on my hubby really.

It is commendable that he is in touch with his parents and cares for them.

Also, your post suggest you may not be thrilled to move but have no strong opposition to it, which is also commendable.

Is it possible there could be a happy medium?

On one hand, parents should be taken care off, on other hand immediate family (spouse/kids) needs come first.

With young sister and brother his parents cannot move I think.

UK is not so far. Can he visit regularly or they could also?

It also means your family will need to find the way to settle there and depends on if financially it is possible or not.

Congratulations and good wishes by the way for expecting.