watch out desi..dont say I dinn warn ya

[Roman]

...and this desi family came from somewhere and start making fun of me like they never saw anybody in dhutti before

Was it raining?

[Muzna]

Fraud,

My comments were sarcastic...intentionally to prove a point.

Many mind-sets are easily traced. How I wish we could overcome the brain-washing.

[NYAhmadiX]

Fraudz…some desi laugh so loud you need rooN in your ears. Desi lafa (laugha, or laughter) matches or exceeds any other lafa in the world. But just as you, I have also noticed that desis usually pass each other by without looking and exchanging greetings. I think we tend to be quiet colloquial and usually not very open to strangers. In my neighborhood in Lahore and in my village, people are more likely to exchange smiles and hellos to those they know.

There are techniques to make a girl smile back at you. Sometime I will share that with you.

[Roman]

There are techniques to make a girl smile back at you. Sometime I will share that with you.

No, we are talking about eye contact not physical contact here.

[Dopey]

I don't think Desi has anything to do about smiling or not. In everyday lives, some people are just reserved with strangers.

[Mr_Fraudia]

Dopey people are busy etc, but dont tell me you have not noticed desis ignoring a new desi even in a work setting where they know they will eventually meet the person. Why not just go and say hello.

NY thanks for the offer but I managed allright

http://www3.pak.org/gupshup/smilies/smile.gif

[Dopey]

Well, frankly, I never experienced that problem in work place. As, I am always the first one to say hello to a Desi, even if they are hesistant. I make friends easily...well, workplace hello hi type of friends.

[This message has been edited by Dopey (edited June 09, 2001).]

[The_Fish]

Wow!! This thread has given me a whole new insight into desi behavior

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A few years back, I used to wonder about this ‘desis avoid desis’ phenomenon

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I mean, c’mon, I am neither an alien nor invisible. Guess what? I don’t bite either!

I kinda agree with sabah about the reason: many ppl just don’t want that extra bak-bak to follow. Its gross and un-necessary. I think its important to be kind to each other. And I am sure most of us can afford to put on a light smile on da face. Its a nice and ‘safe’ reaction compared to the ‘Oh, I just saw a desi’ frown.

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[Asif]

http://www3.pak.org/gupshup/smilies/smile.gif

May be cos if you include all the different types of desis there are SO many of us

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(about 1.5 billion!!!

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)

Nah I come across the same thing many times too. I guess I am guilty of it too (i.e. of sometimes not saying anything)

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But more often then not i will try to smile and say “hi”.

[Mr_Fraudia]

Degas here ya go, brought it up for your thread.

[Chaltahai]

Fraudiya..you will have to get through the Personal Assistant, the PR team, the ex-Cia and KGB security detail and the entourage of bling-bling girls to say Hello to me...you can try though!! :)

[Mr_Fraudia]

[QUOTE]
*Originally posted by Chaltahai: *
Fraudiya..you will have to get through the Personal Assistant, the PR team, the ex-Cia and KGB security detail and the entourage of bling-bling girls to say Hello to me...you can try though!! :)
[/QUOTE]

sorry, I dont meet fobs :D

[Chaltahai]

What is a FOB, Fruadiya?

[Mr_Fraudia]

[QUOTE]
*Originally posted by Chaltahai: *
What is a FOB, Fruadiya?
[/QUOTE]

something like a keychain :)

[Chaltahai]

There are a few keychains in the entourage Fraudiya..but don't let it stop you.

[Mr_Fraudia]

[QUOTE]
*Originally posted by Chaltahai: *
There are a few keychains in the entourage Fraudiya..but don't let it stop you.
[/QUOTE]

:D okay

[batameez]

*Originally posted by Pilot25: *

When I moved from London (where there are lots of desis) to Boston (where there are hardly any desis) I noticed that if I ever came across one on the street or in a mall, they would really stare at me intensly, it was very unerving.

I told my father about this and he said, “Don’t worry son, they are just trying to work out if you are from their village”.

Made me laugh

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:rotfl:

[abc1234]

Re: watch out desi..dont say I dinn warn ya

*Originally posted by Fraudz: *
You cant hide desi..don’t even try to look away, because you know you will look in my direction again. I know it..you know it, and you know that I know it..so don’t even attempt to do so. Eventually you will look and guess what you will see. A smile. Yes siree bob, a smile, for you..desi..from me, another desi.

Has anyone else noticed this phenomenon. Desis don’t smile in general. Is always that serious look, sometimes almost an angry look. Relax Mon, have a Jam sandwichhh..chill a bit smile. This not smiling thing is especially true when you run into another desi that you don’t know walking down a hallway at your campus or the office. Eye contact is avoided, no hello is said.

This reminds me of living in the dorms. In the café area it was interesting to see interactions. A number of spanish speakers would be sitting and talking and a new person would show up, he would listen in for a few minutes and then walk up and introduce himself, these guys were from all over spain, mexico, costa rica..you name it. I saw a similar trend with arabs as well as french speakers. But then there were desis..lets just say. You know that the other person is a desi…that person knows you are a desi. Both pretend that the other person does not exist..what goes through the mind..here is a sample. The first few thoughts are optional if there is a little bit of doubt about the person being desi

Is this person desi .hmmm. Maybe spanish or arab
Lets see…clothes indicate the person may be a desi
Lets check the shoes out..
Yep the person is most likely a desi
But is he indian/pakistani/afgani/bangladeshi what
Hmm that dude called him faisal..this person is a muslim but still not sure if he is indian or pakistani
Hmmm he is probably pakistani but is he from Karachi
He looks like it, but is he a burger? Is he a laulkhetia type..hmmm

This goes on..meanwhile the other person is evaluating you in the same manner.

Its like two tigers …walking in circles…looking at each other but no one is making any moves yet to make their intentions be known.

Anyways, I have decided to rebel. If you are a desi and I run into you. you bet I will come and talk to you. I don’t care where u are from, or how long have you been in US, if you are a FOB or ABCD or whatever.

I am going to smile at you and say hello in the hallways and come up and introduce myself in a gathering.

Don’t say I dinn warn ya..

yikes Fraud bhai ab toh bach ke rehna paray ga :biggrin:

[Code_Red]

Re: watch out desi..dont say I dinn warn ya

So expat desis !

Anything changed in all those years ? :)

Are ABCDs BBCDs more comfortable in their skin as compared to their parents ?

[zobia]

Re: watch out desi..dont say I dinn warn ya

:D