I am going to call the guy “Y”, the girl “X”, the guy’s friend “Z” and the guy’s friend ex gf “E”.
ok, so here’s the story:
X & Y are going out and have been dating for over 4 years. One day, they go out to eat together and Y goes inside the restaurant to get the food. X is in his car and she sees he left his cell behind. She never really checks his phone or anything but she just happens to pick it up and starts looking at it. she gets to Y’s txt msgs and sees he has texted some random girl..E..things like “hey sexy how r u?” “i miss you sexy” “lets go out” “lets go drinking” blah blah blah. E has also textd back things like “oh we can’t sneak drinks into my room cuz my bf will come” “lets meet up at this lake” “i miss u too” etc etc. after reading all this, X is obviously going to assume that Y is cheating on her with this girl named E. Y comes out n sees X and X questions him. He says “this is a guy friend and we were just joking around” when X shows him the part of the convo where E said “we can’t sneak the drinks into my room cuz my bf will come”, Y gets nervous and says this his friend’s…Z’s ex gf. He still talks to her even though she is with another guy and her new bf knows his cell phone number so he txts her using Y’s cell phone. Y calls his friend Z n asks him to tell X that he has been using his phone to txt E so X does not break things off with him. Z tells X and assures her that is the case and promises he will never use Y’s phone again. X believes Y and things r back to normal.
Now you guys tell me. Wat if you were in X’s place and u found txts like these in ur significant other’s phone.. how would u feel? Wat would u do? would u believe wat his/her friend says that easily or would u investigate. Even after telling ur significant other that u believe them, would u still try n find out wat u might THINK the truth is?
Either Y is cheating on X or he is complicit, and therefore condones E's cheating on her boyfriend with Z. Not someone I'd want to be around, since you're known by the company you keep.
If this is the first time, she has encountered something shady, she should just give him benefit of the doubt and take his word for it. But she should be careful (now don't overdo it..but just be a bit careful). I am glad she confronted it and he did go to a certain length to try and remove the suspicion. But she should still be careful..lol, cant emphasize that enough!
a typical excuse from Y (typical guy) that his friend (Z) is using his phone .. typical typical typical .. he must have come up with some decent excuse .. .. anyway .. .. I don’t see an honest future of X and Y .. ..
4 years is big time .. why the hell he is cheating now .. emm .. may be he is bored and wants some change or .. just for hell of it .. emm .. !!
No, I wouldn't give Y the benefit of the doubt. The excuse is lame, his story seems too "out there" for me.
Why would Z want to create trouble for Y by using his cell phone to call his ex girlfriend (E)? How long did Z think he could use Y's cell phone for such a purpose? This is so immature. Get another cell phone, dial from another number, this isn't high school (LOL, unless it actuall IS).
If E's boyfriend can get mad at her for receiving messages from her ex (Z's) number, then he will ALSO get mad at her for receiving such flirtatious messages from a guy with a differentcell phone number. Thus rendering Y's explanation illogical.
Y should have told Z that his ex-gf is in a relationship and that it's not right for him to be starting something with another man's girl. Assuming that this excuse is "true" (highly doubt it) and Y did indeed let Z borrow his cell phone this purpose, that's like saying that Y condones cheating. And if Y can condone cheating, he can also engage in it.
I'm surprised at how easily X was appeased by Y in this situation. Had it been me, I wouldn't let it go so easily, cuz the story sounds like BS.
OP, I hope that you're not "X" n this situation. I'm curious about one thing though. The way that you have worded your post makes me wonder: *How does X know that Y asked Z to cover up for him? Moreover, are you an outsider in this situation who knows that Y asked Z to cover up for him??? *
Also, as Niksik suggested, I would use names in place of the variables (X, Y, Z, E). The post would flow better that way and it would much easier for the readers to process.
^Agree, or at the very least, be on your guard. After this joyous discovery and weak explanation, this relationship (if you can even call it that) is not going be to "normal."
X may have been temporarily appeased, but that shadow of a doubt is going to lurk in her mind. If the lame explanation didn't kill the relationship, the trust issues that will ensue will take eventually their toll. Unless she's that naive.
well thanks for ur input guys.
To clarify some things here:
I am not "X" lol.
I am a co-worker of "X" who this happened to a few days ago and she talks a lot abt her relationship with her boy friend to me. She was just sharing the story and I wanted to know wat u guys would think abt a situation like this.
This is not high school, all 4 parties involved in this r close to or in their mid-20's.
I spoke to "X" again about the situation and she told me that she asked her bf why his friend uses his phone to txt this girl. his answer was "because she still talks to her ex (his frd) and her current bf knows HIS number, therefore, he uses different numbers to txt her. Not only Y's but also his brother's and couple of other friend's." He even showed her the txts sent to the same person on his bro's phone and another friend's phone. That made more sense as to why she was convinced that Y wasn't cheating or lying.
hmmm can she check when those msgs were sent from his brothers phone or othr ppls phones (before she found them on his phone or after) cause tht would clear up a lot of things!
if it really was his friend "Z" using his phone, why at first did he say that thats his friend and they were just joking around? and not till she showed him the msg saying "we can't sneak the drinks into my room cuz my bf will come" that he told her this was "z" msging "E"
.. anyway .. .. I don’t see an honest future of X and Y .. ..