Wat Is The Reason?

[kiara]

Re: Wat Is The Reason?

but yaar at times mom behave so strange.and then i had this feeling that she does not love me.jab bhi un k behn bhai aatay hain wo mujhe totally avoid karti hain.jaise mein exist hi nai karti.she loves me more then anything but kya koi is baat pe yaqeen karega k mein saturday night ko mom k behavior ki waja se ek ghantay tak roti rahi hoon wash room mein aur unhen pata bhi nahi chala:( mera sir dird se phat raha tha.par unhon ne ek baar bhi nahi poochha k ab tabiat kaisee hai kyon k she was busy with her sister.and now a moment back i rcvd a call from her and she asked k kya tum mujhse naraaz ho when i said no to kehne lageen nahi tum ho reason nahi batay to wo mujhse naraaz hogaeen.yaar tell me wat shud i do?she is the only person jis se mein apni feelings share karti hoon.but at times i feel that k she is just a mom not my frend.aksar log duaen maangtay huay sotay hain mein saturday ki raat ko duaen maangtay huay soi k ALLAH mujhe utha lay mein zinda nahi rehna chahti.jab kisi ko meri zarurat nahi hai aur jab mein har kaam hi kharab karti hoon to phir mujhe dunya mein bheja hi kyon.it was the first time when i did not think about my mom and pray for my death.i may sound like a psycho but yaar it hurts alot jab aap kisi se itna pyaar karen k uski khushi aap k liye sab kuch ho aur wo ek dam se ajeeb behave karay.u know wat i feel like crying and crying.

[shobig]

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@QueenBee

not very good relationship with mom. i feel uncomfortable around her..

She must be your stepmom

[system]

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@kiara

but yaar at times mom behave so strange.and then i had this feeling that she does not love me.jab bhi un k behn bhai aatay hain wo mujhe totally avoid karti hain.jaise mein exist hi nai karti.she loves me more then anything but kya koi is baat pe yaqeen karega k mein saturday night ko mom k behavior ki waja se ek ghantay tak roti rahi hoon wash room mein aur unhen pata bhi nahi chala:( mera sir dird se phat raha tha.par unhon ne ek baar bhi nahi poochha k ab tabiat kaisee hai kyon k she was busy with her sister.and now a moment back i rcvd a call from her and she asked k kya tum mujhse naraaz ho when i said no to kehne lageen nahi tum ho reason nahi batay to wo mujhse naraaz hogaeen.yaar tell me wat shud i do?she is the only person jis se mein apni feelings share karti hoon.but at times i feel that k she is just a mom not my frend.aksar log duaen maangtay huay sotay hain mein saturday ki raat ko duaen maangtay huay soi k ALLAH mujhe utha lay mein zinda nahi rehna chahti.jab kisi ko meri zarurat nahi hai aur jab mein har kaam hi kharab karti hoon to phir mujhe dunya mein bheja hi kyon.it was the first time when i did not think about my mom and pray for my death.i may sound like a psycho but yaar it hurts alot jab aap kisi se itna pyaar karen k uski khushi aap k liye sab kuch ho aur wo ek dam se ajeeb behave karay.u know wat i feel like crying and crying.

I don’t mean to be rude, or to put you down, but I think you are an adult now? You don’t need your parents attention all the time, do you? I think it’s unhealthy to be too attached to your parents. You have your life and they have their own life too. Sure, children are supposed to support their parents and the parents their kids. But every human is also supposed to make a life of his/her own.

Your parents other relatives and friends are also entitled to their attention and wouldn’t you also like to do things for yourself? Be with people your own age, or be with people that share the same interests as you?

I personally have very less in common with my parents and unfortunately since the last couple of years we have a relationship that goes on and off, it’s ok alhamdulilah, but we are not close anymore the way we used to be, because I had made decisions which they didn’t support, what I have done is not wrong in Islam but in our culture often people consider it wrong.

So my parents and me, well, we seem close at times, but underneath there is a huge distance between us. I think it will never be the same again.

But there is more in life. If you have your own family, they need you too, I have my children to take care of and I’m trying to learn new stuff. There is so much to enjoy and learn in life, and you won’t be here for ever.

Eternal life is after death, and that is the real life, so make sure you are a good person and do what you have to do to hope for a place in heaven. There will be no sorrow there, only happiness.

And think about the people who don’t even have parents, or the people who have terrible parents, personally, I would go nuts to spend every minute with my parents. Even if you have perfect parents, it’s just not healthy to be so attached to them!

Besides, depending on other human beings for your happiness is risky business, humans can hurt you, humans often turn out not the way they seemed, humans can die, you should try to find the strength within yourself. Find the strength within Islam. You have to be the one who can bring yourself back together whenever a problem arrises. And if others really don’t love you or like you, it shouldn’t destroy you. If you are emotionally independant, you are strong.

You can do it, just say to yourself you can and you will, insha Allah.

[kiara]

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@sadya

I don’t mean to be rude, or to put you down, but I think you are an adult now? You don’t need your parents attention all the time, do you? I think it’s unhealthy to be too attached to your parents. You have your life and they have their own life too. Sure, children are supposed to support their parents and the parents their kids. But every human is also supposed to make a life of his/her own.

Your parents other relatives and friends are also entitled to their attention and wouldn’t you also like to do things for yourself? Be with people your own age, or be with people that share the same interests as you?

I personally have very less in common with my parents and unfortunately since the last couple of years we have a relationship that goes on and off, it’s ok alhamdulilah, but we are not close anymore the way we used to be, because I had made decisions which they didn’t support, what I have done is not wrong in Islam but in our culture often people consider it wrong.

So my parents and me, well, we seem close at times, but underneath there is a huge distance between us. I think it will never be the same again.

But there is more in life. If you have your own family, they need you too, I have my children to take care of and I’m trying to learn new stuff. There is so much to enjoy and learn in life, and you won’t be here for ever.

Eternal life is after death, and that is the real life, so make sure you are a good person and do what you have to do to hope for a place in heaven. There will be no sorrow there, only happiness.

And think about the people who don’t even have parents, or the people who have terrible parents, personally, I would go nuts to spend every minute with my parents. Even if you have perfect parents, it’s just not healthy to be so attached to them!

Besides, depending on other human beings for your happiness is risky business, humans can hurt you, humans often turn out not the way they seemed, humans can die, you should try to find the strength within yourself. Find the strength within Islam. You have to be the one who can bring yourself back together whenever a problem arrises. And if others really don’t love you or like you, it shouldn’t destroy you. If you are emotionally independant, you are strong.

You can do it, just say to yourself you can and you will, insha Allah.

after this thing i have this feeling that perhaps u r right she is my mom and she loves me alot.but i have to be independent.i will try to do the things u have mentioned.thanx sadya and u were not rude u r just trying to help me.but as u know that i am the only child to mujhe boht laad pyaar se aur khudse close rakkha hai.bas issi liye bura lagta hai.but i guess i have to move on.