it is clear from prophet mohammed (pbut) actions that they married their beloved daughter hazrat fatimah (r.a) in saadagee (utter modesty)
nowadays in our pakistani weddings for example, we see camera, shehnaiyaan, a special built stage for bride-groom, soone ki angoothi for men (haram in islam), mehndi ki rasam ( no such thing in islam) a big chance to show how much wealth one has, some ppl borrowing money to help towards the costs of marriage (not allowed in islam, to borrow for wedding purposes) etc etc etc
all of this is it allowed, if not then all of us do it : some time in our lives ( if taufeeq is given by allah ), we have been doing these style weddings for a long time, wat is LIKELY to happen to us!
What you just described is very prevalant in our society. However, i have seen weddings in a very different structure as well. Both of my sisters had their nikkah done in a Mosque. There was only one reception from the Dullah i.e. Walima. People who have the courage and Tufeeq as you put it still do as prescribed by Allah and his Prophet Muhammad (PBUH).
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What you just described is very prevalant in our society. However, i have seen weddings in a very different structure as well. Both of my sisters had their nikkah done in a Mosque. There was only one reception from the Dullah i.e. Walima. People who have the courage and Tufeeq as you put it still do as prescribed by Allah and his Prophet Muhammad (PBUH).
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good to hear about ur sis' gr8t. congratulations a proper islamic wedding!!!!!
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What you just described is very prevalant in our society. However, i have seen weddings in a very different structure as well. Both of my sisters had their nikkah done in a Mosque. There was only one reception from the Dullah i.e. Walima. People who have the courage and Tufeeq as you put it still do as prescribed by Allah and his Prophet Muhammad (PBUH).
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pakistanis should stop cultural weddings which are obviously wrong,and follow the example of the Prophet Muhammed -pbuh-,
Well done to ur family Kaleem for breaking this tradition!
Information and statistics about the Muslim population of the world
Nearly one in five people in the world today claims the faith of Islam. A diverse community of believers spans the globe. Over fifty countries have Muslim-majority populations, while other groups of believers are clustered in minority communities on nearly every continent.
Although Islam is often associated with the Arab world and the Middle East, fewer than 15% of Muslims are Arab.
All your points are really true and it's important to remember who we are and ensure are belifes play a role in this ......
Just one point I think is important for all of us to remember........ we look at the arab world as an example for us because our beloved Prophet (saw) was an arab..... however it is a sad thing to say, but the arab world are the same as we are and there are good & bad people in all origins, so it is always best to look to our Beloved Prophet's (saw)Sunnah and nothing else.
May Allah ta'ala give us all the ability & strength to act upon the Sunnah and the Holy Qur'an, Ameen
stats on arabs....thats goodstuff. Its important to clarify that since the muslim world is misunderstood as middle East and saudis.....ok so we have unislamic weddings..whats so severe????its just representing our daily lives anyways...those who marry in the masjid must be overall different ppl then those who marry in, say, a banquet hall filled with a mixed audience and a disco ball hanging overhead. LLOLLZ to the ppl who dont understand the logic behind a simple/islamic wedding...
one imam here in toronto made a good point- We ask ourselves why the marriages nowadays are breaking apart, but we do not realise we rukhsath our daughters with music and dance, mehndi functions and biddat.
I dont think its 100% this reason alone, marriages were never always successful for everyone as a society at large, but this must have an influence/ again, another representation of our mislead daily lives.
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one imam here in toronto made a good point- We ask ourselves why the marriages nowadays are breaking apart, but we do not realise we rukhsath our daughters with music and dance, mehndi functions and biddat.
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I attended a friend's sister's wedding... there was nothing of the above. The Nikah was held in the Jamia mosque and all namazis prayed for the couple.
She divorced her husband the second year of her marriage with him.
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I dont think its 100% this reason alone, marriages were never always successful for everyone as a society at large, but this must have an influence/ again, another representation of our mislead daily lives.
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No tehl mehndi, no dhool, no you must marry your aunties daughter, no call them but not them, no flashy reception hall, no 4 receptions at the girls end, no showing who gave what and how much, no flashing of the jewellery and suits, no eyeing up the opposite sex in the foodhall, no drinking of the glass of milk!!!!!!!, no crying and chasing the car after we drove off, no 15 paichareys (best men), no mungnee 20 years earlier and nikah now and finally no headaches.
Simple. Both agreed, Nikah at Masjid with witnesses and Walima. Done.
