salam!!
well i hav a big prblm!
i wz working before marriage from long time!!we hav our own family bussiness so in small age i use to work so its now my habbit not to sit free…in my inlaws they doesnt allow to work
..so jhak maroon sara din ghar par!!!
dan 1 proposal came n my family decided to do nikha,aftr nikha when me n my husbnd used to talk i knew he is stuborn and moody alot!!im bubli girl..and we are totally opposite in nature..it made me sick..after dat i thought to change himself with my love n care..it works alot..at that time i used to talk my mother in law on phone!!i hav one jithani..bt she is smaller dan me in age!!anyways my MIL used to tell she did not cook well,she cook very less,i only cook…bla bla…I know how to cook bt not much,as i work 12 hours…when i got married first 4 days i saw she wz not cooking only my MIL..so i thought when they will tell me to cook i will help my MIL..dan we went on honeymoon.when i came back my jithani went to pak for 1 month..when i complet my 1 month.i cook metha..n differnt dishes bt my MIL lik same cooking as she does..my husbnd wants differnt dish as wat i cook at my home!!
anyway in 1 month my MIL startd to tell me jithani also cook awsum..she learnt from me bla bla!!
now when jithani came back,she become totally change…she cooks from 1 week lunch n dinner!!
when i cooked my MIL was standing on my head n distrb me alot!!and when she cook she didnt say a single thing!!
suddenly now i sit totally free..i becom pysco..coz i used to work n for me sitting free makes me mad!!
my husbnd asked me y u dont cook in these days!!i told wat i do all de time she cook!!my MIL can also say to me dat cook sumthing!!
now wat i do?
standing in kitchen luking so odd!!while she wz cooking n my MIL helpd her!!
i also tried dat kya paka rahi han ar kasay?bt her response wz not nice!!
im from rich family bt she is from poor family!!my FIL is such a nice man..he know my family n give me respect…
wat i do!!
tomorrow will b 2 months of our wedding!!
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Jeez! 10 bucks to whoever comprehends that.
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**sar ke baal utarvaayen saare...use count kareN...iA do maah yuN chuTkiyoN meN nikal jaayeNge...phir bhii agar time bache to ek baar aur apne sar kaa munDan karvaa leN haha
shaadii mubaarak :)**
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Jeez! 10 bucks to whoever comprehends that.
she wokdz b4 she marrying.....now she can nots work...
only workz she able do now is cooking.....but the MIL not let her cook or tell her cook becoz MIL side with Jithaani and now she can't do any work i.e cook..
so nothing to do....and also problem like this
MIL is poor family
Her hubby want that food which cooked in her house...but MIL don't let her
FIL is too good to be true..
Now send me my 10 buks :@:
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Jeez! 10 bucks to whoever comprehends that.
She came from a rich family and used to work/had hobbies etc.
Then she got married to a "poor" family and they don't allow her to work.
Her MIL cooks, her jethani cooks and they don't let her cook.
Whenever she cooks her husband doesn't like it and wants what hsi mom makes.
$50.
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You copied mine…
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I love how this thread turned out to be a translation of her post instead of advice for her.
Sanadubai,
Well, the thing is your jethani is doing "extra" now since she has competition. She is trying hard to make sure she is getting the attention by doing the household work.
So, what can you do? Well, once in a while, talk to your MIL and ask her that you want to cook something "specific" for them and if its okay if you cook lunch/dinner today. The reason your MIL is on your head is because you are new to the family, she doesn't know how well you can do on your own and you can only gain her trust by proving to her that you can be okay by yourself. So ask her when you want to cook. I am sure she is not going to Deny you.
Secondly, when you have so much extra time on your hands, do other things around the house, Cleaning, homemaking kinda things or help them in kitchen by cutting vegetables, etc. And if there is really nothing left to do, then spend time with your FIL or MIL. Talk to them, take them out shopping, do what they like to do. There are So many things you can do around the house other the cooking. So get busy in those things.
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I got vertigo reading that.
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Just a question....why did you even accept a rishta from a family that's poor and wont' even allow you to work???
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Do something from home, start on a small-scale..
Pay no attention to the you cook, I cook, jethani cooks, we all cook drama.. not worth it!
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Who cares who cooks? Less work for me I say!
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Jeez! 10 bucks to whoever comprehends that.
:D
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i will try to talk to my MIL!!
im just waiting for that time when she will tell me by herself..
they have 2 housemaid,thy r rich family..mashallah..bt just jithani is from lower family!!
housemaid do cutting etc..cleaning is already done..
FIL n my husbnd go togethr..
i dun knw y my MIL start cook at 8 30 and finish at 10.. 
in my home we cook 11 and finish on luch time for hot serving!!
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Just a question....why did you even accept a rishta from a family that's poor and wont' even allow you to work???
they r rich family just my jithani is from lower family..my family stays in dubai bt her family is in pak!!
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Do something from home, start on a small-scale..
Pay no attention to the you cook, I cook, jethani cooks, we all cook drama.. not worth it!
when i came home she told front of everyone :dost b banna ar behan b banna"
bt wo khud kya ban rahi hy!!
before she woke up at 10 now 8 :p
i just get up before my husbnd..like 8 30..dan i make breakfast for him n he went at 9 or sumtyms 9 30..
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play bejeweled online. After i started playing i feel i have got a purpose in life. I have something to live upto.
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they r rich family just my jithani is from lower family..my family stays in dubai bt her family is in pak!!
This sentence and particularly the word "lower" says it all. Good luck woman finding advice. You deserve whatever is coming to you.
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lol... u serious ^
Sana i'd say relax and enjoy time. Spend time reading.... Keep ur self busy with something at home.. if u like make-up try different eye makeups, and post pics here, share with other guppans...Start blogging... im not sure what else!
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This sentence and particularly the word "lower" says it all. Good luck woman finding advice.** You deserve whatever is coming to you.**
well, if that response makes you any better..
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Sana if your mil doesn't want you to cook then don't cook, but you can help her out in the kitchen or with other stuff. If she is still not happy then it's her problem, you just try to be the best you can and stop worrying much.